HB 9 Waitress/Cashier...Next Step?

[IrishGuy23]

So I'm generally not one to look for advice on a specific situation with a girl. Ultimately I'm going to reach my own conclusions based on gut intuition.
However, this time I'd like to hear some of you guys' opinions...

Basically there's this HB 9 girl working in my faculty canteen/restaurant.
Blonde, tall, good-looking...and from what little I've observed doesn't seem to be affected or stuck up in anyway.

I'm caught in two minds as to her interest level...I visit the canteen most days i'm working in uni, and she has acknowledged me as a regular customer...saying hi occasionally as she's cleaning up tables around me, smiling and so on. I'm not however reading too much into that. The opportunity for small talk doesn't often arise as the place is quite busy, and there's always someone behind me in the queue waiting to order.


Last Friday though, by pure luck I managed to break the ice with her. I was outside smoking a cigarette and as I came back into the building I ran into her as she was taking an order of coffee on a trolley to some office. The lift was broken so she stopped me to find out an alternative route to the first floor. I had to tell her it was the only lift around. As interactions go hardly spectacular, but I was happy that finally at least the ice was broken. I finished up by asking her name...she responds by smiling and pointing to her name tag. (She didn't ask my name)

I was in the canteen again this morning for coffee...didn't really say anything to her, just a polite, yet wry smile and one in return from her. Again, as they were people behind me I didn't feel comfortable in engaging in small talk.



My feeling is that I can't accelerate quickly to asking for a number just because of the ice being broken last week. There may be some interest level but not high (or clear?) enough on her part for me to proceed. I realise I could just be being a coward and talking myself out of it, yet my gut is telling me it's not yet the opportune moment to strike, so to speak.
From her point of view, dating a regular could be a no-no...for me it's not such a big deal if I wipe-out, as I can always change where i eat on campus...but she doesn't know that!

I'm probably over-analysing, but you must agree this is a tricky situation that does require a little thought.

My plan is to perhaps up the stakes in the flirtation department...more lingering, bold eye-contact etc...and gauge her interest and my next move from that.


What do you guys think?

 

[MightyMate]

Well i am in similar situation.
I work wit ha girl that i like. Well we wrok in same company but we share 0 rooms or anything tgether. We have 0 opportunities to talk. I work here hal a year and had opportunity [for example walked on floor when she did] was 5 times!
Anyways when i had occasion i talked to her, even somethign stupid to make her laugh but to show her im confident. And she always laughed.
Speaking shortly you are too early to ask for number, you need to make more contact, same as me. My problem is i have no opporunities to talk to her, you have the easy way.
So.. go for it !

 

[Tazman]

It's one of those situations that require you to take the risk of asking her out without knowing if she'll be receptive or not. If you can make some small talk and isolate long enough to to do it, go for it.

Doesn't seem like she's giving you any clear signs so you have to "assume" the sale until you find out otherwise (rejection).

If you do it, remember to act as if it's no big deal whether or not she agrees. You're level of comfort will transfer over to her. Make her feel like you made this decision on a whim, not like something you've been seriously contemplating outside of seeing her at the restaurant.

 

[IrishGuy23]

That seems like good advice to me Tazman.

In the past I've always waited for extremely clear signs of interest before making a move, but this is the first time I've contemplated going after a woman at this level of physical attractiveness. Perhaps the rules are different for beautiful women, and they don't show IOI's as transparently as "normal" girls.....or is this just a KBJ theory?

Do the rules fundamentally and significantly chance when pursuing hb 8's 9's and 10's ?

 

[IrishGuy23]

bump

anyone else with suggestions or advice?

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

In the past I've always waited for extremely clear signs of interest before making a move, but this is the first time I've contemplated going after a woman at this level of physical attractiveness. Perhaps the rules are different for beautiful women, and they don't show IOI's as transparently as "normal" girls.....or is this just a KBJ theory?

Do the rules fundamentally and significantly chance when pursuing hb 8's 9's and 10's ?

No. The rules are the rules. Women are women. As soon as you start to treat beautiful women any different from any other women, you've already gone down the wrong path.

If you get more IOIs from less attractive women, it's because your game is different around them. Treat every woman as though they were equally ugly.