"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HB 8 interested in me....? No self-confidence

Potbelly

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Guys I have this HB8 interested in me, she's in my class w/me and always tries to hang out w/me but I am always too goddam busy.

Anyways, a few nights ago she called me up from NOWHERE asking me what I was doing that night and if I wanted to see a movie w/her so I was like alright cool, but after that I said we do something that I want to do, and it'll be a surprise.

The surprise was some pool play in underwear, which was fun, but goddam I can't get over the feeling that she is after something else and not interested in me as a person. Sure some will say I shouldn't give a damn, but as a person w/connections that I worked hard to make, skills that I worked hard to hone, and basically a life that i am constantly improving, i feel like she is trying to steal that away from me OR she is trying to get at it and using me as a means.

Now, there's nothing wrong w/that if you think about it because girls want the great catch, but the great catch here thinks he is being seen as a piece of "meat" in a sense.

I think this is a deep seated issue w/me from when I was a huge fatass as a kid in grade school/high school and now that I've changed on the outside A LOT, I still have the deep seated insecurities from before. Help me out here fellas....I can't shake this feeling of insecurity.

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Also forgot to mention this gal called me out of nowhere and I was surprised because I never gave her my # before and she said she had it from when I called her once a few months ago....wtf
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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JackPrescott

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You were playing pool with her in her underwear and you DIDNT fukk her. Are you a big Culture Club fan?
 

Potbelly

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JackPrescott said:
You were playing pool with her in her underwear and you DIDNT fukk her. Are you a big Culture Club fan?
wtf? pool? no i meant a SWIMMING pool....who plays pool naked? and yes, I did fuk her, but I felt really vulnerable and scared to be alone after that...then I put up my defense s again and felt that she was trying to screw me over and just became really paranoid about WTF she was doing this. I can't accept that people like me....I can't accept that everyone doesn't like me...it's fvcked up. I need help
 
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