Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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having truble waking up/feeling sluggish in general

kickureface

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i notice when i wake up, its back to bed. but i know that once you start moving around, youll kick into waken mode. sometimes this takes 30 mins, even an hour for me, and that is just not efficient. do any of you have this problem?
any suggestions on what to do to just kick start your day without any bs problems?
heck, sluggish in general-nap in the middle of the day, and the whole thing repeats, just it's not at night anymore.
@%$@$
i started takin fish oil more yesterday, and i slept at 3am woke at 7am for a paper. didnt feel too tired! in fact once i got up to shut the damn alarm clock i felt kinda refreshed! i dont know if this is some weird coincidence, but if fish oil does affect it (doubt it) im just going to buy those sparkletts 5 gallon jugs and drink out of that!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm the same. I pretty much am always tired...
 

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sh#t, teenagers with no freakin energy.. what is the world coming to. you guys should be wired 24/7.

cut down on the drugs/alcohol/processed junk and eat some real food. you'll be jumping out the bed in the morning
 

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I feel the same way quite a bit of the time.

I'm going to get my blood taken tomorrow :D
 

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perhaps you're expecting to get by with too little sleep. active guys under 25 need on the order of 9 hours of sleep, esp. if they're working out hard. but it can be hard to maintain this if your sleep schedule is thrown off (judging by the hours i post around here, it's clear that mine is off more than it's on)

DO NOT nap more than 20 minutes midday or you'll throw off your sleep schedule. avoid caffeine within 4-8 hours of bedtime (tolerance varies widely, depends on quantities & how your body metabolizes it) or suffer the same. if you're getting 8-10 hrs of sleep a night and still having trouble getting up, then you have a real problem :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SinJester

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I don't do drugs or drink alcahol. I don't drink caffiene after 4:30 PM. I get at the least 8 hours of sleep every night. I never nap. I eat healthier than almost everyone I know. I get more sleep than most people I know.

Go figure...
 

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You may need to look into a new matress. I had this problem for a long time and my doctor said it may be as simple as the sleep I'm getting, even 9 hours, may not be quality sleep. You probably don't even realize your not getting a good nights sleep. I'm not talking about constantly waking up or anything like that but you just might not be getting into REM sleep for long enough. I changed my matress from a soft to a more firm and I have much more energy in the morning.
 

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SinJester said:
I don't do drugs or drink alcahol. I don't drink caffiene after 4:30 PM. I get at the least 8 hours of sleep every night. I never nap. I eat healthier than almost everyone I know. I get more sleep than most people I know.

Go figure...
Get to the doctor.
 

Throttle

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kickureface said:
no naps? why, throttle, WHY! I HATE YOU!!!!
i'll try it.
powernaps. try setting an alarm for a half hour from the time you lay down.

gotta tell you, i'm terrible about this, but when i get the napping & caffeine under control i sleep much better at night and wake up truly refreshed after 8.5-9 hrs.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Throttle

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Quagmire911 said:
Get to the doctor.
with a sleep study they can show you that what you think is 8 solid hours of sleep probably isn't.

unfortunately the treatment options they propose generally aren't fun.....
 

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does the time you go to bed matter as well? cause i live in a student house with 5 guys, and the average bed time is about 3. a.m, but my classes dont start till about 1 pm, so i sleep till about 11 or 12, which is still 8-9 hours a night, but im extremely tired all the time, and i do eat better than my friends, and i dont nap or consume caffeine before bed either GO FIGURE :)
 

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I also believe it's the lack of deep REM sleep. Perhaps you have a lot on your mind too. And you're just thinking about things too much.

I think I saw once that most men only get about a maximum of about 4 hours of REM sleep, the rest is not good quality.
As you get older, you actually start to go into REM mode less.
And the more stress and anxiety you experience the less you will sleep well in general. Caffeine and stimulants allso affect sleep patterns, as they affect people differently. It may stay longer in one person's system than another's.

Look into

melatonin
Valerian root


ZMA (defintiely worth the money , and proven it works)

5 HTP

Also, look into meditiaiton/relaxation before bedtime. Soft music, and a cool, dark room helop you get to sleep faster and hopefully feel comfortable enough without the tossing and turning.
 

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Yeah, same problem here. Often tired and slugglish during the day. Of course once I go to Krav Maga class in the evening, I'm full awake with the first minute of warmups. But before then, I could pretty much anytime before then, I could lay down and fall asleep in the day with no problem. I work from home now, but before when I was at a workplace, my lunch hour would mean parking my car in a shady spot, setting my cell phone alarm to go off in an hour and then going to sleep. My sleep quality at night is absolutely horrible. I wake up numerous times during the night, maybe as many as 10 times a night. It's always been like that. I can recall maybe 2 times in the last decade that I've slept the whole night through and not woke up. And when that has happened, I felt very good when I got up, so I think Interceptor is right about the REM sleep thing. But most the time, I feel like I'm at the twighlight stage of sleep. Kinda like a dog, they sleep, but yet they rarely sleep deep, all it takes is for a pin to drop and they are wide awake again.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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