having trouble with confident college girl

[Bigworm]

so ive been trying to get wit this peruvian chick that is into reggaeton, clubbiing and hip-hop but is an engineering major. the story is this: ive been talking to her over IM (i know i think im gonna start to call her instead) once a week for 3 weeks. i had used c+f and got to know a little about her before i asked for a date over Im. she said yes but that i should im her before to make sure. worse comes to worse she goes to ny that weekend and the date doesnt happen. now everry time i talk to her she says maybe. ive been busting on her all this time but im thinking maybe i should stop talking to her till after christmas break (3 weeks). im also thinking im just gonna call her from the number she has on facebook since this IM shyt is not working. tell me waht u guys think?

PS: i think this is huge: she said that she needed a guy that could be a distraction and enterrtain her

 

[Evangenlion]

you should have just mentioned that date once, setup the date and time once and never mention it again.

the maybe is a no.
mentioning a date more then once showed how desperate you are.
second, only mention the date again only if you threaten to breakup the date. say like "didn't know you like to be spank, makes me think twice about the date" etc

 

[gizury]

ditch the im , an rsd newsletter from last week pointed out some big downs of text messageing i think im and texting fall under the same catogory


with the im u cant get any feed back from her voice and she cant hear yours . its really hard to convey confidence over im . frame control on im is also lost.

i was also recently flaked out on a day one she texted me an hour before said she had to cancle but would make it up to me . i didnt reply ... i waited for her to set up the next day one . she made it up to me all right . but i am quite sure if i chase after like an afc i would stil be waiting .

 

[Bigworm]

good advice about the desperation Evangenlion but im a little unclear on how to undo that damage. more specifically how do i ask her to hang out without sounding like i really want her.
i think i should definetly wait till after the long break (i go to Boston Univ.) so that it comes off as less needy.

PS: by the way im also dating some girl on her floor -- can i use the to my advantage ?

 

[Bigworm]

i was reading an article of tyler durden from blairlair.com an i think waht i need in this situation is active disinterest (let her chase me a little bit) even though his other article "playing hard to get" was a little tough to understand.



but beyond this girl - i would really like to hear how u guys deal with girls giving u mixed signals and who play hard to get aside from N'ext'ing them which i think in my opinion is a cop out move.

 

[Shiftkey]

Originally posted by Bigworm
good advice about the desperation Evangenlion but im a little unclear on how to undo that damage. more specifically how do i ask her to hang out without sounding like i really want her.
i think i should definetly wait till after the long break (i go to Boston Univ.) so that it comes off as less needy.

PS: by the way im also dating some girl on her floor -- can i use the to my advantage ?

It's over with that girl. It doesn't matter how you play it, she's not interested.