"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Having trouble sticking to becoming a DJ

Rint

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It's a huge problem for me. It happen with Weight training, school work, ex girl friends, and becoming a DJ. I have a hard time staying dedicated to something. I somehow lose the fire to do it kinda like it runs out. Like i get bored of it so i stop, even though i really wanna keep going, and become a DJ i stop. So instead of reading and practicing becoming a DJ i do other things that are distractions/responsiblitys. For example, go on the comp like i am now. I'd go on for Home work and end up chatting emailing downloading and playing games. I lack self control, and the ability to stick with something. Please Help
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Rint said:
It's a huge problem for me. It happen with Weight training, school work, ex girl friends, and becoming a DJ. I have a hard time staying dedicated to something. I somehow lose the fire to do it kinda like it runs out. Like i get bored of it so i stop, even though i really wanna keep going, and become a DJ i stop. So instead of reading and practicing becoming a DJ i do other things that are distractions/responsiblitys. For example, go on the comp like i am now. I'd go on for Home work and end up chatting emailing downloading and playing games. I lack self control, and the ability to stick with something. Please Help
Discipline is one of the things you need to learn to become a man. Whenever you catch yourself slacking off, go back to working towards what you KNOW you want. Hard work now pays off more then laziness now, and you know it.

I do understand where you're coming from though- so here's some inspirational quotes you should remember whenever you find yourself slipping and not meeting your goals.

Arnold Swartzenegger said:
“My upbringing contributed a lot to my success. My father was a police officer and wanted his family to be the perfect example to the town. We couldn’t do anything bad. He was very strict, checking out everything…….if we were clean, if our shoes were brushed. I was brought up under great discipline, which meant that when I made up my mind I had to follow it through. I had a master plan from the moment I arrived in America. That’s still in me. Every year I set a goal: to win the Mr. Olympia or to get so many units in business school, to make a certain amount of money, to travel to five or six different countries. Every year I make a plan. I do it. It will be done.”
The only way to be a champion is by going through these forced reps and the torture and pain. That’s why I call it the torture routine. Because it’s like forced torture. Torturing my body. What helps me is to think of this pain as pleasure. Pain make me grow. Growing is what I want. Therefore, for me pain is pleasure. And so when I am experiencing pain I’m in heaven. It’s great. People suggest this is masochistic. But they’re wrong. I like pain for a particular reason. I don’t like needle’s stuck in my arm. But I do like the pain that is necessary to be a champion.
 

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Rint said:
It's a huge problem for me. It happen with Weight training, school work, ex girl friends, and becoming a DJ. I have a hard time staying dedicated to something. I somehow lose the fire to do it kinda like it runs out. Like i get bored of it so i stop, even though i really wanna keep going, and become a DJ i stop. So instead of reading and practicing becoming a DJ i do other things that are distractions/responsiblitys. For example, go on the comp like i am now. I'd go on for Home work and end up chatting emailing downloading and playing games. I lack self control, and the ability to stick with something. Please Help
Hmm...it must not be important enough for you to have a fun life full of beautiful women and great adventures. Too bad. :(

If you REALLY wanted a better life, it would be easier to stop doing the things that draw you away from it and start doing the things that draw you toward it.

There's no piece of advice here that can "make you want a better lifestyle". That's something you have to decide for yourself. People here can lead you to water. If you don't drink, that's YOUR problem.
 
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