"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Having trouble breathing.
- Thread starter ChrizZ
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Jerry Maguire
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I just didn't get that invigorating 'rush' from a deep breath that I used to have.
This went on for a while, maybe six months, then I went to the doctors about it.
I hate doctors and hospitals, and probably because of this, the doctor read my heart rate at about 140bpm.
I was sent to hospital, they took an x-ray and a cardiogram and was released the next day with nothing the matter.
I've never felt that invigoration from a deep breath since.
But I've got used to it now so I don't notice it anymore.
Wierd huh?
Being_the_Don
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Why are you even bothering to ask here? If you're experiencing symptoms like that you should see a doctor ASAP. Don't mess around with your heart. The week before last I came home from the gym and a couple of hours later had some trouble in my chest so I went to the doctor. Although I wasn't presenting with any symtpoms of a heart attack they didn't like it anyway. When talking to the doctor I speculated it might have been from varying my routine a little but then she asked me how long I had been working out. When I said since last January she told me the chest pains couldn't have been caused by exercise adding that I am in good shape physically. So they ran tests and it turned out that I had a cold. All the same they said I was right to go in because you never mess around with your heart. You should go in to get yourself checked.ChrizZ said:
Does it only hurt when you breathe?
What does the pain feel like?
Does it radiate out anywhere?
What were you doing when the pain started?
Does anything make it better or worse?
Did you take any caffeine or stimulants?
As a paramedic I've have yet to encounter a teenager with actual heart problems. The last call I had like this was an 18 year old kid with a fast heart rate. (140bpm) As soon as we got him away from his parents he confessed to taking an Adderol before going to work out...:crackup:
Basically what I'm trying to say is you're probably fine. If it continues go see a doc.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.