Having problems

[Speektral]

I'm about 20 years old and been studying at a university in another town. I decided it wasn't for me and I moved back home to my moms place since January. Since then I have been preparing for a national test so I can study economics at the best school in my country. Unfortunately, I won't be able to get in the next term because I was a few points short...

I really want to study there and if I apply again I will be accepted the subsequent term (January 2014), which is 7 months from now. Problem is my mom has started getting temper tantrums and nagging about me having to move out.

Currently I just finished a minor college course while studying for the test, and working part time but won't afford to pay for an appartment, food, etc. Been spamsearching for jobs but the economy in my country is terrible for youth so I'm not sure if I will be able to get one. We have one of the highest unemployement-rates in Europe.

What do you guys suggest I do? I'm trying to reconcile with my mom about staying there for ½ year but she seems very eager for me to move out. I would very much appreciate a constructive answer.

 

[TheException]

See if you can pay her to stay. Tell her "Mom, i know you want me to move out, and i do too but its expensive. Can i pay you a little each month to stay just until i get into school.".....then study your a$$ off and get it.

 

[Marker]

Teachers and parents respond best to maturity, growth, and personal responsibility, at least in my experience.

If I were you, I would make sure my mother knew about my goals and ambitions outside of school, and I would explain why this particular school is essential to achieving those goals. I would then say that until this schooling begins I need a place to stay, and I would offer some sort of payment, such as rent and chores or whatever. Basically I would make a deal with my mother saying that I need X to achieve Y and I will offer Z to make sure I have X, and if I fail to provide Z the deal is off.

Alternatively you could take summer classes in the meantime as long as the credits transfer. I am not parent, but I would be afraid of my child stalling at growing as a man/human being. What I mean is I'd be afraid he would come back home and not move out, lose his drive for school, etc. I am not saying that these negative qualities are a part of you, but I do think that it may be important to reflect upon what your mother may be thinking before you discuss this with her.

 

[goundra]

is mom wanting to date men, and considers you to be in the way, or what's the deal with her?