Having Problems With C&f

[rushing dude 123]

I noticed that C&F is definetly necessairy or u wud jus end up in friend zone. I started using C&F in my approaches, but i come on a bit strong i feel and just end up insulting them. I would say a line and i got a super bad reaction, then i see a guy saying the same line and he got a good reaction. This is becoming one of my major problems at the moment, would any of u guys now how to solve it?

thanks.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

I think that being ****y & funny is something that you either have, or you don't. Like you, I'm not naturally ****y. Confident, yes. But not that ****y & funny combination that women really seem to like (the 'nice jerk' thing).

What I have found is that large amounts of kino can help, even if you're not ****y & funny. So I'm confident, and have really stepped up the kino, and that has helped me a lot.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Give me some scenarios kid and I'll help you out.

The delivery/tone, your persona is important!

 

[rushing dude 123]

yeh i know kino kicks ass mike lol, but i want to improve on my weaknesses.

Hm has for scenarios last man standing:

1:
like i saw a girl i worked with pick up a teddy bear from lanes (kid dropped it) and she was holding it and i said "o u don't plan on stealing that" she said why wud u think that (here is where i think i f'ed up) "ah u don't know people".....yeh she then made a scene, but she is kind of stuck up anyway, so idc if she don't talk to me anymore. Anyway next day other girl walks into bar and a guy says "what r u here to steal" and she said "orange piece" and he got positive response.

2.
Girl says i am dizzy (not suppose to drink at work), but i say "o u havn't been drinking have u " and she says "no only water", but think she took offence.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Haha, actually your teddy bear line was a good one - some women are uptight and take everything at face value. In being funny there is a sender and a receiver - the receiver must be receptive to your lightheartedness - there is nothing you can do about this.

A quick wit is a tool and a weapon!

Your second scenario.."I'm dizzy" - I would have said, "Tell me something I don't know" (then rolled my eyes ). "Dizzy" meaning "stupid" - old school term.

A quick wit is a tool and a weapon!

 

[betterthandead]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134714

It depends, if it comes off as natural you are gold. People can tell..mostly WOMEN can tell.

 

[thissean]

im learning card so my example would be this. i show them a few tricks and they generally are amazed unless they are realllyyyyy dense. they'll go on to say "show me another one!" and ill respond with "Oh so am i your monkey now?" and smile. ill give them a hard time and then show them another one.

just an example of what i use.