Having problem escalating sexually

[bluefishlagoon]

Im a long time lurker here, but finally decided to ask this question thats been bugging me.

I have what some close friends described a natural charisma. I am not super tall or anything, and definitely not the most charismatic person out there, but given my height of 5'8" (short for a guy), some people do seem to be easily attracted to me. Im naturally relaxed and comfortable of who I am and where I am.

I have zero problem getting numbers or setting up dates, sometime they even happen without me trying or expecting. But I have a huge problem escalating things sexually, the kind that "bring the girl home".

I dont want to pull off these PUA tricks that dont seem to come to me naturally. I did kino, kiss close, but taking a girl home seems like a goal thats so close yet so far. Did try to escalate beyond kiss, only got LJBFed, as it didnt seem natural. I even knew it was coming before I escalated, did it anyway to see if my gut feeling was right, and it rightly so. I have taken a girl home, and it felt right that time, but I would like to increase my lay count.

Some people said that its a numbers game, but I think thats partly true. Upon seeing that 150 dates in 4 months thread, your game definitely matters too, and I do not want to end up like that guy.

Im still searching what is it that I should be doing, or not doing. Just wondering if you pros have some tips. Now I am feeling like banging my head against the wall.

 

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If people are easily attracted to you then you're doing something right with your communication, use that form of communication to escalate things sexually, by flirting or subtle talk.

The fact that it doesn't come of naturally to you that you can't bring a girl home or makes you feel uncomfortable speaks a lot about your inner confidence. A confident person will initiate the deal and take it home. Why can't you?