"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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having perspective in life

joekerr31

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just thought in light of many recent posts perhaps this diatribe might be of entertainment.

one of the things common to most threads is that people lack a perspective on life. people somehow have this thought in their head that life is suppose to be perfect and if its not then they are a loser.

too many years of watching 'friends' on tv and other such programming has lead people to believe that everyone should be cute and fluffy and prancing about having fun all the time.

the reality is that life is hard for most people. it rarely lives up to expectations. so much of it is window dressing, which when you get behind the surface layer is nowhere near as pretty as it appeared (and usually not worth what you paid).

- tons of peopel are living in poverty
- you got wars going
- you got people depressed
- you got peopel murdering and raping people
- you got people shooting up schools
- you got people addicted to all kinds of things
- you got pervs who like people taking sh*ts on them
- you're loved ones will eventually all die
- you are going to die
- you got women prostituting their bodies ont he street and in porn
- you got cancer, heart attacks, brain tumors, etc.
- you got people who get hit by drunk drivers and cant walk again
- you got people morbidly obese
- you got erectile dysfunctions and yeast infections

the list goes on and on and on.

the good news in all this is that YOU are probably just fine. you probably are healthy and have a job and are in no imminent danger of death.

so women troubles aside, you are in a damn good spot right now compared to A LOT of people in this world.

so next time you are wondering - WHY ME? - try to put things in perspective. don't let a WOMAN, or a sh*tty boss, or a cr*ppy friend, make you forget how f*cking fortunate you are right this moment.

because guess what, you won't be this fortunate forever. one day your body is going to break down and you will die. so i don't care what problems are vexing you right now, you have the power to 1) realize that they are only problems because you see them as problems (take a better view, call them challenges instead) and 2) whatever challenges you do have are fewer than you should have statistically speaking (odds are you are one of the lucky ones who didn't get raped, hit by a drunk driver, etc.)

anyway, felt like giving myself a buck up speech and thought id share with all of you :cool:

in the past 2 months i've basically ignored 6 HOT chics who i should have asked out - but my mind has been stuck in existential la la land lately (happens to me now and then). trying to remind myself that the I need to stop thinking about life so much and get in to living it more because im one of the lucky ones who has all the faculties to live a full life.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yeah, from what I've read/seen lately, it's supposedly easier to get what you want in life when you're grateful for what you have, instead of focused on what you lack.
 

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joekerr31 said:
trying to remind myself that the I need to stop thinking about life so much and get in to living it more

yeah, I get this way also.
 

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Brilliant !!!!! I Love This Post, BOTH MEN AND WOMEN can learn alot from comprehending this material. well done joekerr31
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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We are all falling out of buildings towards the inevitable “SPLAT!”.

Can we be happy in free fall?

You betcha.
 

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"Through eighty-six years of perpetual motion
If he likes you hell smile and hell say
Jimmy, some of its magic, some of its tragic
But I had a good life all the way"
-Jimmy Buffett

You gotta take life for what it is, but sometimes it's hard.

Life has thrown me a curve over the past year or so. Trying to take it in stride but it's tough when it seems like you are taking it up the ass at every turn.

The good thing is, I have learned that life is full of ups and downs, and if you get an unusual string of good "luck" you are due for some bad, and vice-versa.

It also helps to know that bad experiences make us appreciate the good and teach you valuable lessons that help you to become a better person all around.

You're right though....no matter how bad it gets it can probably get a lot worse.
 

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joekerr31 said:
everyone should be cute and fluffy and prancing about having fun all the time.
I'm going to be 32 next month.

I can't legally drive, so I skipped to the grocery store yesterday.

I'm not exactly "fluffy", but I can prance.

I think some people have had the luxury of never hitting bottom. Mommy and Daddy carried them when they stumbled. Life to them never seems "good enough".

Some that have hit bottom once, if not multiple times, appreciate things from a different perspective.

Myself... happy birthday to me! I'm 11,667 days old! Every morning that I wake up means, if nothing else, one more day I can prance (if I want).

Today is another day that I'm not dead.

What's not great about every day like that?
 

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F*ck. So true. Hell, we should consider a great lay or an LTR as bonus in addition to the good fortunes we enjoy. The thing is, women will come right along once we take pleasure in the good and exciting elements in our lives. Negativity creates the dip in our vibe that puts women off, so gratitude will do the opposite.

And think about it, if you are grateful for what you know you have, how can you approach a woman out of needy insecurity???
 
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