"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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having multiple plates really IS important

LoneWolf

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spinning multiple plates really IS important

i now see how important it is to have plates spinning all the time. it has helped me so much these past few weeks. cause you all know how crazy i got over one girl i saw 5 times, who i am seeing tomorrow again. lets call her girl 1. girl 2 who i said yesterday, was fun.. we spend the afternoon together at a shopping center (mall) and flirted a lot. she knows im seeing someone but i think that helped with her interest. we playfully kept hitting each other and kino here and there. gave her a nice little massage. as a joke, because she makes cupcakes, she said she wanted the whole one hour massage.. at my house! (i was a lil surprised, she kept mentioning this too, sounds like shes serious about it) but for another time obviously. she put lipstick on infront of me too. she didn't want me to go home because i kept saying i gotta go and then she would drag me into another shop to check things out. it was still fun anyway. i kissed her cheek upon greeting. a lot of eye locks and laughs here and there. generally i think she's pretty interested. tried testing me too i think a few times saying "your gf" when she asked about it. i said shes not my gf (girl 1)

when she dropped me off at the station, i went to kiss her cheek and almost kissed her lips because she turned her head. but turned it back .. so i just got the cheek lol. dont know what that was about. maybe she thought i was goin for the other cheek. i havent spoken to her since .. wanna remain mysterious and let her think.

so now there's girl 3 who i havent had my first date with yet. she emailed me the other day saying she might be able to meet today, but she didnt let me know until before. she text my phone saying

"Hi <My name>. <Her name> here. Just saw your email :) probably no good for today now. How about monday later in afternoon? i will be in < > for the day but maybe later on in afternoon depending on how long it takes. let me know."

aint texted back or anything yet. now im supposed to be seeing girl 1 on monday so i dont think im gonna cancel on her. maybe change it with girl 3 to tuesday? at least this way she'll be surprised that im gonna say no to her. she'll start thinking im seein other girls i guess.

sheesh, didn't know dating would be so exhausting! i'm almost glad i didnt meet girl 3 today. im stuffed!
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LoneWolf

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oh man this is insane. i haven't had this much action in a long time. maybe since i was like 17 when i was always surrounded by girls.

i know i sound like a kid but its just awesome having more than one girl on the plate. im getting texts and calls on my phone from different girls now every day or so. just arranged to meet girl 3 on tuesday. girl 2 is already heated up from yesterdays adventure so the iron is hot with her.. and girl 1, well.. shes number 1 out of the others since we've already gotten psychical and all that. but back to the point. it's fuking great when you got more than one girl spinning on the plate. i hardly think about girl 1 anymore. i lost the plot when it was just her on the plate.

thanks guys for all the advice. i would of fuked it all up without it :)
 

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Just take it easy bro and enjoy the ride.

Try not to get caught up in all of the drama though, a lot of guys get drained when switching plates, because their entire life becomes revolved around it. Learn how to time manage and understand the importance of working on yourself.

Best of luck.
 
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