"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Having a small party, but there's this big problem

Brighty

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Basically its me, my friend and his girl, and my other friend and three other hot girls are going to be staying at my friends house tonight.

I know two of the hot girls want to hook up with me and like me... but the thing is I dont really know how to get to that point of us hooking up. Like, I just don't know what to do. Just talk to them and then at some point we just start hooking up? The last time I tried doing this I ended up making a girl feel kind of like a slut because I either cut to the chase or didn't warm her up enough.

So how can I effectively escalate things in the right way? How do you guys do it? Its just a chill party, not really dancing or anything, we'll probably be smoking hookah and drinking a bit.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WhitePimp

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Get a few drinks in you and make a move man. You're on this Earth because your dad made a damn move. Like slaog said, be fun and sexual and kino them a bit. Once you feel solid, isolate a bit and make a move.
 

Captain

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Attract >> Isolate the girl + kino escalation >> Kiss

They already like you, so you're off to a good start.

You need to tease, lots of touching and kino escalation, push-pull.

When you've warmed them up, move one of them somewhere where you two can be alone, keep escalating the kino, and make your move. Remember to keep up the push-pull the whole time, make her anticipate it, and make her want more.
 

Hughman

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What the other guys said:

Have enough to drink to loosen yourself up, but nothing more so you can stay focused. Make sure they have a few as well. Plenty of kino and jokes.

Be the life of the party, bounce around, talk to everyone, make sure some good songs get played for you to show off your moves, and maybe let you grind them. If you can get your buddy in the relationship to wing for you, and create some sexual tension by making out with his girl, all the better.

If you feel a girl really wants to jump you, find an excuse to take them by the hand and lead them to wherever the hell you want to. Actually, you don't need an excuse. Just lead, if they want to follow you, they will.

Then again, if two girls want you, play them off each other. Jealousy make the heart grow fonder.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pua1989

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seriously playing drinking games is great they always have a good time.

but what ive learned is that what is the most INTEGRAL part is ISOLATING the girl to just you and her.
 

Kevin Feng

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Hey Buddy,

First and foremost, and again, this is my personal preference, I don't like mixing social group with game because it makes things awkward if you screw up or make a mistake. Remember, even the top PUA's like Mystery and Matador get blown out of set and lose to LMR, it's part of the game, that being said, there are repercussions if you escalate to aggressively with a girl in your social group, then you get a reputation for being "that guy", ya know?

Your best bet would be to express interest in a playful way. Joe D from season 1 does this well, mixing ****y funny, LOTS of kino and just going for the kill. I'm not saying F the girl right there, but going for kisses and cuddling, stuff of that nature. If it were cold approach pick up, things would be different, not as big of a deal because you'll never see the girl again.

Remember:

"You need to be able to lose the girl to get the girl" - APB

In this case, I would suggest escalating to the point to where its shy of awkward, because you're not looking to burn bridges.

-Kevin
 
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