"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Having a hard time figuring out if i'm in the friend zone or not...

unnamed04

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I've had this problem with a few girls in the past, but this one especially... i'll keep this short...

I work with her, so I see her maybe once a week.

She calls me fair often, txt messages me a fair bit (hear from her pretty much every day), the text messages are usually just filled with silly things.

She talks about me a lot to her friends and other people from work, so its fair to say that she is thinking about me a fair bit.

She talks about a lot of crap with me, saddly i've become her emotional tampon a little bit, but she never talks about guys she is intrested in, but sometimes guys that are intrested in her.

The line is so fine between friend zone and not, how can I find out for sure?

There is kino at work, playful pushing etc...

I do have other options which I am working on, I am recovering from my afc days still and I don't want to let this one go just yet. Oneitis sucks a lot.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you feel the least bit an emotional tampon change that very quick at the beggining while you can becoming an emotional tmapon is like a virus if you dont cure it it just gets worse. so cure your virus ASAP and from what it sounds like is your past the friends zone just dont get into the habit of becomeing that wretched emotional tampon.
 

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So what that I have said indicates that I am passed the friend zone?

Yes I agree I have to get rid of this problem but how do I do it?

She is under the impression that I don't want to listen to her problems (which is true) and that makes her upset because she thinks I don't care at all (and I mean really upset, she cried on saturday night over this after a lot of drama at her party).

In the past we have had some issues, and she has recently been telling me that I never talk to her anymore and she is always initiating everything, so there is always a tension between us whenever we talk.

Bah, I think about things too much.
 
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