Having a crisis.

[ziogothica]

Sorry if this is a bit long i'm trying to generalise it as much as possible. i've never posted anything before here but I have a situation I need help with.

I go to college, (tons of girls ) and i've been friends with this girl for a few months (just friends, I wasn't really looking for anyone at the time). She's never really seemed to show that much interest in me except for the odd parties when we've made out but that's all. She's always been following me, being with me recently rather than any of our other friends. Shes constantly playfighting me and biting me even o.o She's quite immature and crazy-like though, so it could be how shes like with other people.
Recently we've been rely close, teasing games e.g she brings her head like literally 1 cm away up to my face then quickly pulls away. The last time i saw her, few days ago, she was holding my hands secretly on the bus back from college. We even talk about rather erotic things we'd do to each other (but it could be just joking).

Now I could make a move on her, next time we bring our heads close, i'll, you know, quickly kiss her before she can take her head away. See what happens, I think 50/50 chance of it working personally, she cud just be a general flirt with anyone.


But theres this other girl who ive rely recently met. She 100% wants to f**k me and is arranging times we'd be doing it and such. So basically I cud have her right now if I wanted to. 99.9% guarantee.

SO MY CRISIS- I don't know what to do. I want the first one more than the second. But I dont want to lose both. If i got with the 1st it wud most likely be a relationship not a one-off which means i wudnt hav any chance of getting the 2nd. Or I cud take the easy way out and get guaranteed someone with the 2nd.. but I wud then hav most likely no chance of getting back with the first.

Shud I make a move on the 1st and see where it goes from there? Or have i already lost her, and so best shot go for the 2nd one.
I guess it's a bit of a risk factor

Please give me your wise words.. Thanks

 

[Alexander]

Ask the first one out, if she says no, bang the 2nd one and move on.

 

[DjVita]

play both plates, keeps you out of oneitis. play a MINIMUM of two girls man, keeps you busy in the good way.

 

[masterpiece]

Do these girls no each other?? ,if not why not do both as you are single.Date the 1st girl while sleeping with the second. if things do get serious with the first one you can always get rid of the second girl.

 

[MikeBrown30]

Yep, major crisis. Better get the coast guard involved.

 

[ziogothica]

Haha to ^

Well this is the DJ forums so I would say this was a DJ crisis right?

And thanks to your replies. No they don't know each other ( I hope )
But yes your right, i'm going to try my hand at the 1st one while im seeing the 2nd one. Then with the first 1 if it leads somewhere, good, if not. I still got a reserve

 

[Tinsil]

Go for both to start. The second one you have already keep her around.. and if the first one works out after a little while, ditch the second then.

Casually dating or banging doesn't like imply pure exclusivity imo.

 

[marinetti]

Flirty girls can be all talk and no action, especially if she's leading all the interactions (which is what seems to be the case here).

Try teasing her back. Instead of letting her put her head in and pulling it away, you do it to her. You don't know if the erotic talk is joking or not? Then you're not leading, you're letting her lead. Make a decision as to whether or not you want it to be flirty, and then act accordingly. And don't back down if she challenges you (either directly or indirectly) on your decision.

Seriously, just man up and make a choice. Go on dates with both of them, and LEAD the interactions, and decide if the girl you're with is one you want to hook up with. You're not dating either of them, if you end up hooking up with both of them, I don't really get what your crisis is....

It's a good one to have though lol

 

[Stryker]

Oh my God... I'm sorry, but this is not a crisis. There are some guys out there who are scared stiff at the mere thought of talking to an attractive woman, and they're reading this thread thinking "you lucky *******".
Get with both of them. Simple!