"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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haven't had sex for six years. can you beat that?

tony-montana

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and no, virgins don't count. i've only had sex twice... well the second time probably doesn't count cause i never came.. she had to leave early. but yeah, that was back in 2003. i can't believe it's been that long. i guess it's cause i was living in a small town. hardly went out... rejected many girls to be honest. i was way too picky in my early teens. i missed out on alot of casual sex. anyway, now that i am much older. my standards are a bit lower and i've been going on many dates. also i have moved to a bigger state. very busy area.. near the city. so i've met alot of girls. i have a date tomorrow actually. i have fooled around many times since 2003 but never got to the point of sex.

so, anyone else in this situation ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Leporello

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ah no, my record is six months...
 

jonwon

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tony-montana said:
and no, virgins don't count. i've only had sex twice... well the second time probably doesn't count cause i never came.. she had to leave early. but yeah, that was back in 2003. i can't believe it's been that long. i guess it's cause i was living in a small town. hardly went out... rejected many girls to be honest. i was way too picky in my early teens. i missed out on alot of casual sex. anyway, now that i am much older. my standards are a bit lower and i've been going on many dates. also i have moved to a bigger state. very busy area.. near the city. so i've met alot of girls. i have a date tomorrow actually. i have fooled around many times since 2003 but never got to the point of sex.

so, anyone else in this situation ?
Stop living in the past and start looking toward the future.

Make an effort to put this guy behind you - what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

This is simply your comfort zone pushing you to action, dont ignore it.

Anyone can change - anyone.

Start learning seduction, get down to the gym, change your style -

What ever it takes, do it.

This is not a contest, this is about progress.
 

everywomanshero

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6 years?????? Wowa. You should take up fishing, you have got some kind of patience!
 

scrouds

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Wow, 6 years. Yeah I have that beat. Ummmm..... 37 and 1/2 hrs? And Counting!

Not everyone can change.... you gotta want it. If you're proud of your 6 years and counting you won't change.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Night Owl

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Ever thought you might be gay? All those wasted years...
 

fertileTurtle

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No. Congrats on not raping anyone yet. Buy a prosto, so you can at least say you've been fckt.
 

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I've gone over a year before. Not proud of that, but nothing I did to change it seemed to work.

Really, once you hit like 3 or 4 months with no luck, it becomes harder and harder to keep that positive mindset and confidence necessary to go out there and pull tail.

You start thinking "Dammit, nobody wants to fµck me..." and that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

And no, getting a hooker doesn't help -- if anything, it makes you feel worse that you have to pay through the nose to get something normal guys can get for free with minimal effort.

I feel for ya, OP.
 

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a week (girls that I am seeing had their period at the same time. I was in hell), but I'm going back to university in two weeks :)

- comic_relief
 

Cinamon

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I think my longest stretch was 21 months, after i almost gave my date a stroke in a cheap hotel. I refused to sleep with anyone till I knew enough bout their medical history.... And no, he wasn't old, he was 30 at the time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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