Haven't been this lost over a girl for about a year

[urielpie]

Hi so this is my first post here i actually started on the PUA forums about 1 year and a month ago and for the most part as i grew in confidence and as a person most of the questions i had for the people there were pretty easy. But this one i'm stumped on and so are some of my friends so i thought i'd come here where theres many more experts on HS game.

I'll try to keep the post somewhat small i want a lot of people to read this but not be turned off by all the text XD

I'm a junior in HS this year and i'm good with girls, don't go after too many as well with school started again things can spread like fire to say the least.

2 weeks ago as were figuring out the schedules and where everyone will sit in our class i notice an extremely pretty girl sitting at our table. Try to talk to her she's really shy, she's from germany and a foreign exchange student for the year. I decide i'm going for her and im feeling really good just have to get her to open up to me a bit.

I hear she has a boyfriend back home no biggie shouldnt be too important. So i proceed to tease her a bunch and neg joking around with her she sticks her tongue out at me a lot and punches me laughing it works good but i'm still not getting her to really talk that much. She was too shy too speak english.

Say i'm probably going to do something fun this weekend she should come along get her number. Text her shes going to football game wondering if im coming i say no dont like football. She **** tests me saying shes going with a guy and i say oh thats cool have fun we can hang out tomorrow. She puts a little sadface and then i say i'll text you at 7 to hang out tomorrow. She agrees.

When it comes to the nextday i text her and say you ready? (yes i know afc somewhat haha whatever) she says what do you mean im at a football game in san diego i say nevermind. Probably just a mistake i hope brush it off.

The following week i was kinda over it she was still shy blew me off pretty much but then i told her something along the lines of conversations with you are too one sided and kinda boring. Don't remember what i said exactly but she got the point and stuck her tongue out at me smiling and she opened up a lot. While we were in class that day a girl who doesnt even know her asked if she likes me they probably thought i was out of hearing distance. She says i dont know and i look over and she sticks out her tongue once again and smiles. If another girl notices something must be good right. Definitely a good day it might not sound like a lot of progress but i was..

So then it comes to friday which is yesterday? I talk with her shes feeling really sad doesn't say at first why but then i get her to talk its because she misses her family and home. I tell her i might or might not be busy tonight i'll message you on facebook ok (her phone broke) we can meet up around 5? And she agrees saying ok.

I facebook her saying lets do bla bla tonight i'll meet you at bla bla.
She messages back a short while after that saying sorry i do some other things maybe some other time...

I just say okay i'm kinda pissed at this point as this is like a direct flake. But then i think oh she's probably just bummed out she did say earlier she has no friends no family etc etc. Look on facebook for the night and notice she has pictures posted and she's hanging out with a bunch of girls who live here and i realize

what
the
****.

So honestly if you got through that your my hero where do i even go from here? I mean i've done lots of kino sexual escalation teasing etc just never got a day 2. And now her flaking me off completely happened. I'm not the type with oneitis i have another girl on backup but i really genuinely like her. I mean is it possible shes worried something might happen between the 2 of us and is avoiding it? I've kept a really flirty fun mood so i know she realizes somethings up.

Thanks for reading it all guys.

 

[mannybinswaggin]

Wow, that's quite an impressive paragraph you got there. You seem to know what you're doing a bit, if that's the whole story.

also, she's bull****ting you.

Don't contact her at all anymore. Avoid her as much as is possible. If you're in classes with her, go cold to her instantly, but don't tell her why. Don't ignore her if she talks to you. Instead, keep your convo as neutral as possible, and avoid starting conversation at all. If you're as close as you insist, she should notice the change in behavior. For example:

Her: Hey urielpie! (Or whatever)
You: (Give her the dryest possible 'Hey' that you can muster up.)
Her: What did you do this weekend?
You: (Say what you did, and THATS IT)

The key would be to give her as little as possible. If she asks what's wrong, obviously don't tell her that you're passively ignoring her.

 

[Pozitron]

Talk to her. Challenge her.
In this time go for other girls as well.
You can go direct about it or not. It's your choice.

 

[mannybinswaggin]

Talk to her. Challenge her.
In this time go for other girls as well.
You can go direct about it or not. It's your choice.

Pozitron, please elaborate on what you mean by challenge her. I'm curious.

 

[Pozitron]

When I said challenge I was referring to going direct about it. I mean you can either go something like:"So you're saying' you don't wanna go out with me?" (playful of course),but that would be more or less smooth or go something like "If I would ask you to go out with me on..(blabla).. what yould you say/do?" and then"Just to know not to ask you next time".
I get your point and agree that she is BS but I think that if you would go kind of direct but at the same time smooth, playful and smart about it you would save yourself maybe days of wondering "what's goin' on" and would just know where you stand.

The indirect way is what you said, mbw-- no contact, waiting for her to come for you.

Anyway, do what you want urielpie. I don't have that much xp and this is just my oppinion, of course.