Haven't dated in about two years. I have had and met women since than but it has been drinks or clubs and etc and mostly sex. No dinners, or dates or anything like that. I am concerned because I don't even know how anymore. It's been so long. I've been concerned with my career, finances, and trying to move to another city. Because I don't think I will live in this city for much longer, it has hindered me in dating. I keep feeling like there is no point since I will move anyway. Have you guys been out of the dating scene for long periods? Does it just come back naturally? I don't know, I just don't have much to talk about anymore. Since my career and finances are not straightened out, what could I offer her? Should I just wait till I get my life in order?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Haven't been in the dating scene for a while, should I be concerned?
- Thread starter trent81
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
When would that be? This year, next perhaps?trent81 said:
You don't have to have everything just hunky dory to go on a date with that cutie in Marketing. Girls really do just want to have fun..it is all about how you make them feel.
Get back on the horse before you forget which end bytes and which end shytes.
Two things:
- If you're hanging out with women and getting sex, what do you need to "date" them for? Just so that you can tell people you're officially "dating" someone?
- There are plenty of guys who are nowhere near getting their sh!t together and have nothing seemingly substantial to offer anyone yet they're still dating and have no problem with it. Women aren't perfect (huge understatement
) so you don't need to be perfect to date them.
- If you're hanging out with women and getting sex, what do you need to "date" them for? Just so that you can tell people you're officially "dating" someone?
- There are plenty of guys who are nowhere near getting their sh!t together and have nothing seemingly substantial to offer anyone yet they're still dating and have no problem with it. Women aren't perfect (huge understatement
) so you don't need to be perfect to date them.
what this guy said. If ur gettin azz then whats the problem? why put labels on sh!t? Ur gettin the milk without buying (or marrying lol) the cow.Jitterbug said:Two things:
- If you're hanging out with women and getting sex, what do you need to "date" them for? Just so that you can tell people you're officially "dating" someone?
- There are plenty of guys who are nowhere near getting their sh!t together and have nothing seemingly substantial to offer anyone yet they're still dating and have no problem with it. Women aren't perfect (huge understatement
Go out and meet some ladies for fun, sex and good times. You do not have to be looking for the one because odds are she does not exsist. Do not take girls out to eat as it waste your money and time. Drinks, dancing or things you enjoy that will cost as little as possiable and increase the possability of a sexual encounter. 3-4 ****tails and a bit of grinding will only help you get laid. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and making excuses get out there and met some girls..
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.