Haven't dated in about two years. I have had and met women since than but it has been drinks or clubs and etc and mostly sex. No dinners, or dates or anything like that. I am concerned because I don't even know how anymore. It's been so long. I've been concerned with my career, finances, and trying to move to another city. Because I don't think I will live in this city for much longer, it has hindered me in dating. I keep feeling like there is no point since I will move anyway. Have you guys been out of the dating scene for long periods? Does it just come back naturally? I don't know, I just don't have much to talk about anymore. Since my career and finances are not straightened out, what could I offer her? Should I just wait till I get my life in order?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Haven't been in the dating scene for a while, should I be concerned?
- Thread starter trent81
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
When would that be? This year, next perhaps?trent81 said:
You don't have to have everything just hunky dory to go on a date with that cutie in Marketing. Girls really do just want to have fun..it is all about how you make them feel.
Get back on the horse before you forget which end bytes and which end shytes.
Two things:
- If you're hanging out with women and getting sex, what do you need to "date" them for? Just so that you can tell people you're officially "dating" someone?
- There are plenty of guys who are nowhere near getting their sh!t together and have nothing seemingly substantial to offer anyone yet they're still dating and have no problem with it. Women aren't perfect (huge understatement
) so you don't need to be perfect to date them.
- If you're hanging out with women and getting sex, what do you need to "date" them for? Just so that you can tell people you're officially "dating" someone?
- There are plenty of guys who are nowhere near getting their sh!t together and have nothing seemingly substantial to offer anyone yet they're still dating and have no problem with it. Women aren't perfect (huge understatement
) so you don't need to be perfect to date them.
what this guy said. If ur gettin azz then whats the problem? why put labels on sh!t? Ur gettin the milk without buying (or marrying lol) the cow.Jitterbug said:Two things:
- If you're hanging out with women and getting sex, what do you need to "date" them for? Just so that you can tell people you're officially "dating" someone?
- There are plenty of guys who are nowhere near getting their sh!t together and have nothing seemingly substantial to offer anyone yet they're still dating and have no problem with it. Women aren't perfect (huge understatement
Go out and meet some ladies for fun, sex and good times. You do not have to be looking for the one because odds are she does not exsist. Do not take girls out to eat as it waste your money and time. Drinks, dancing or things you enjoy that will cost as little as possiable and increase the possability of a sexual encounter. 3-4 ****tails and a bit of grinding will only help you get laid. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and making excuses get out there and met some girls..
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.