Update. I read that book. I continued smoking while I read it. And then I finished my pack and quit. So far its been 4 days of pure hell. Headaches, post nasal drip, fogginess and lightheadedness, coughing. But I think turned a corner this morning. I actually went out to a bar last night and had a drink without having a cig. I figured I went though all of that hell, I'm not starting over again.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Have you succeeded in quiting cigarettes? What did you do?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
scorpio1138
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I haven't smoked cigs for well over a year.
I switched to the Janty ego. (e-cig)
It's a great substitute without the toxic chemicals.
I switched to the Janty ego. (e-cig)
It's a great substitute without the toxic chemicals.
Julius_Seizeher
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Chewing tobacco rules.
NOW YER A MAN
NOW YER A MAN
Bible_Belt
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Warrior74 said:
My method is to smoke all you want. The catch is that you must purchase only the most disgusting nicotine product you can find. For me it was menthol mini-cigars. omfg are they disgusting. But I never made it all the way through the pack.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Day 8. A full week since my last cig. I can't lie. I've been falling into a horrible black depression for the last few days. I don't even want to smoke. But some of my other health issues have been bothering me. Life just seems pretty gray right now. I keep reminding myself of the things that are good, but it's not helping. Meh.
lorekeeper
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KEep your head up brother. You're doing it.
darkstarrr
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nicotine is one of the most addictive substances known. i found the step down method minimized the withdrawal symptoms and urge attacks. the patches were useless for me and made me have wildly vivid dreams in color.
the gum helped me quit. buy the big box of 4mg ones from walmart or and for the first 2 weeks you must have a half a piece (or full one if you can handle it) in your mouth at all times of the day, switching it up every couple hours.
DS
the gum helped me quit. buy the big box of 4mg ones from walmart or and for the first 2 weeks you must have a half a piece (or full one if you can handle it) in your mouth at all times of the day, switching it up every couple hours.
DS
It seems like every insecurity and anxiety I ever had has come back in the last few days. Full blown panic attack yesterday afternoon. I haven't had one of those in years. Today I felt fine, but I could feel the lingering low level anxiety. My depression for the most part has lifted. I've also been fvcking angry as hell for no reason. As usual I cover my anger with sarcasm around my friends. Some **** went wrong at work and I almost punched a wall. I hung out with some smokers today and didn't have the urge to ask for a cig. Hell I was so busy at work I didn't have time for much today. It was just one of those days. And the pressure and deadlines could be where the panic attack came from. I dunno. 11 days tomorrow. My game is shot right now. I dont even want to talk to any females I know for fear of this anxiety leaking out all over the place. Or getting angry and saying something stupid.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I smoked for 5 years.
Then I just stopped, the first week is hell, it gets a lot easier after that.
Stopping smoking is just a time game, it's all about time and how long you can last, the good thing is, you get to a point where it becomes very hard to keep from smoking, but this is a wall you have to smash through and once through it, it becomes a hell of alot easier.
So if your struggling, just remember you've hit a wall, and past it, it gets alot easier.
I now smoke once in a blue moon, I can take it or leave it, for example I can smoke a 10 pack and not want another again - I sometimes have a fag with a pint, a social smoker - But I did quit 100% for about 5 years, the first week is hard, but it gets easier, until after about 3 weeks its not even an issue.
Smoking is a hunger supressent, in a way your body is craving nicotine but it's also craving food - when I fancied a smoke, I used to eat an apple - It helps.
Then I just stopped, the first week is hell, it gets a lot easier after that.
Stopping smoking is just a time game, it's all about time and how long you can last, the good thing is, you get to a point where it becomes very hard to keep from smoking, but this is a wall you have to smash through and once through it, it becomes a hell of alot easier.
So if your struggling, just remember you've hit a wall, and past it, it gets alot easier.
I now smoke once in a blue moon, I can take it or leave it, for example I can smoke a 10 pack and not want another again - I sometimes have a fag with a pint, a social smoker - But I did quit 100% for about 5 years, the first week is hard, but it gets easier, until after about 3 weeks its not even an issue.
Smoking is a hunger supressent, in a way your body is craving nicotine but it's also craving food - when I fancied a smoke, I used to eat an apple - It helps.
Forty0ztoFreedom
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I guess you can call me a social smoker too now. Whenever I'm drinking, the cravings get bad. I smoke anywhere from 1 to 10 on the weekends now. But afterward (Sunday-Thursday), I rarely have even one, though I get a craving here & there.
Whats weird is they're still kind of sickening, especially sober. If I'm wasted they're great, but if I'm sober its hard to get past one without being grossed out.
Whats weird is they're still kind of sickening, especially sober. If I'm wasted they're great, but if I'm sober its hard to get past one without being grossed out.
13 days! Hung out with my friends tonight, everyone was smoking but me. I won't lie. After three drinks I was sorely tempted to have "Just one" but I knew that just one would lead to more than one. So I called it a night and came home.
If you fvckers :-D can do it, I might give it a try as well. :-D
I just need no "No smoking" ads...when I see them I have the urge to lit up...just as a protest, I guess.
My grandfather stopped smoking when he was 70 years old - smoking all his life. He told me that anytime he had an urge to lit up he just ate a strong mint sweets. I can't do that, I still have my own teeth
But it is so hard now...I can by smokes tax free...it is like 1€ for a pack of twenty.
I have to rev up first....
pros: bad breath, ****s(probably), short of breath, time consuming
cons: no socializing with fellow smokers at work, no "award" for work well done, constipation(probably), what will I do when there is nothing to do?
btw congrats Warrior....hold on
I just need no "No smoking" ads...when I see them I have the urge to lit up...just as a protest, I guess.
My grandfather stopped smoking when he was 70 years old - smoking all his life. He told me that anytime he had an urge to lit up he just ate a strong mint sweets. I can't do that, I still have my own teeth
But it is so hard now...I can by smokes tax free...it is like 1€ for a pack of twenty.
I have to rev up first....
pros: bad breath, ****s(probably), short of breath, time consuming
cons: no socializing with fellow smokers at work, no "award" for work well done, constipation(probably), what will I do when there is nothing to do?
btw congrats Warrior....hold on
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.