I know this topic has been done in the past and it always seems to come down to an argument between people who believe that we are born with our sense of humour and people who believe we can learn how to be funny. Right now I have almost no confidence in my ability to get people to laugh due to the fact that I fail a lot whenever I try. That's not to say that I never get laughs, but my ratio of success is very low. I have read the articles in the bible on how to be funny, but I'm still not convinced that I can do it. It's like how some people are born and are born with inate tendancies towards math or english, I am really afraid that I was not born with the ability to see things in a funny light. I was wondering if anyone here can testify to having greatly improved their sense of humour?
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Have you learned how to be funny? (looking for inspiration)
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WhitePimp
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I really developed well into being funny. My main inspiration was my coworker Chris who is literally, the most socially brilliant person I've ever met. Just from watching him, I learned what made people laugh. A lot of it is just not censoring yourself. If you make them laugh, great. If not, make fun of yourself and be funny that way. Find someone funny who can make anyone laugh and just observe. There is a subtle art to it that can be learned I believe.
I greatly improved my sense of humor by just not taking myself and life so seriously. Once you realize everything's bullsh!t and 99% shouldnt be taken seriously, the humor just comes. Good luck!
I greatly improved my sense of humor by just not taking myself and life so seriously. Once you realize everything's bullsh!t and 99% shouldnt be taken seriously, the humor just comes. Good luck!
yeah, i think you usually need to be in a decent mood to be funny. You have to keep a positive outlook about life and try to have fun. I have a feeling that with the negative perspective you are voicing, you are hopeless.
GtarPlayr73
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Most of the time, i'm not funny, even though i have a strong witty sense of humor. Occasionally, it will come out and people really respond. Whether or not my humor comes out seems to be beyond my control. I think it may have something to do with my attitude in general, which is very serious and perfectionistic. It's just my default mood when i wake up each day. I really want to figure out how to turn my sense of humor on at will as it is usually locked up in my sub-concious. I want to write comedy and have done it before, but again, i can't seem to turn it on at will...
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