"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Robert28

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have you ever been rejected or flaked on by a girl who was "average looking" but had it all fall into place with girls who are alot hotter then the ones who've rejected you? like say you ask out a girl who's a 6 and get rejected or she flakes on you, but you ask out a girl who's a 8 or 9 and she says yes, is very interested from the get go, and wouldn't DREAM of flaking on you? what is that all about? seems kind of backwards to me.

the other thing i'm curious about is why when you get flat out rejected by a girl, and she sees you later on with another girl(who's hotter then her) she acts all friendly or either she stares at you and your date all night? i asked this girl out who i never could get a straight answer from, shed always change the subject or ignore it. she finally oneday goes "look, i'm not interested in you. i got to know you and just want to be friends". my bad for not reading the signals i know. anyways this same girl sees me and a girl i'm out with the other night and she stares us down all night. i go to the bathroom and she corners me out of nowhere and is like "hey Robert how are you?" and i'm thinking "like you care b!tch". i just say fine and walk off. if shes not interested then why all the staring and why go out of her way to talk to me when the other girl isnt around?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have. Was once rejected by a 5 -- albeit a 5 that enjoyed some really freaky stuff, but still, a 5 -- and followed her up with a 10...who was into even freakier stuff. 5 tried to win me back after that. 5 failed miserably. Why would I care about a hamburger when I was enjoying steak?

As for the rest of your questions, they are valid in origin, but there are no valid answers. If you search for logic with women, you'll eventually go mad.
 

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Uberguy said:
Why would I care about a hamburger when I was enjoying steak?
I think Uberguy kinda hit upon it right there. If she believes, and especially if she sees that you can get hotter girls, she's unlikely to believe that you'd actually care about her and is preemptively protecting herself from heartbreak and all that jazz.

Just theorizing though.
 

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makes sense. the thing with me is, once a girl rejects me that's it. i'm no longer attracted to her. i'm not interested anymore even if tomorrow she changes her mind. it's like turning off a light switch. it may sound self centered but i look at it like this, she had her chance to be with me when i asked her out, she passed, there are no do overs or woulda shoulda coulda's. i get the whole "being attracted to what you can't have" thing, but it just makes no sense that she could develop attraction or interest in me just because she saw me with another girl, a better girl. i'm the same guy i was the time i asked her out. it's just that she said no, but someone else said yes. that's her fault, her loss, her decision.
 

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Seems to me a normal thing. Looks subjects vary widely from one to another.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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First off what exactly is a 5 and 10 can be rather subjective. There are girls my friends would rate as 10s that I would consider 7s at best. On the other hand there are some chicks I rate as solid 9s that some of my friends see as 6s.

That being said, that's why you should keep approaching and never care about rejection. Just because you got rejected by a 5 doesn't mean you can't get with a 10. The rejections you had in the past have zero effect on your later approaches.

And yes, girls will often get jealous when they see you've landed a hotter girl than them. You think guys have a keen eye for attractive females? Some chicks can take one look at a crowded room and instantly size up how attractive all the girls are. If you end up with a more attractive woman, a girl will instantly begin to wonder if she miscalculated your value.
 

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Thats one reason I've never agreed with the 'hit on 5's and 6's until your comfortable' theory. No thanx. I'll just hit on ones i think are attractive instead.
 
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