"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Have you ever tried friend zoning a girl when she goes cold?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Credit where it's due I think 60 years of challenge is solid. Bobby Rio s material on conversational hooks and storytelling was good. Nothing new under the sun I think that's where Tom T got a lot of his material. Chateau heartiste is great. And for general social confidence and skills leil Lowndes has a series of interesting books if you can get past her tragic New York accent
And I'm afraid I would read all of those over coach melonhead
And I'm afraid I would read all of those over coach melonhead
@deesade what makes Coach Corey Wayne a master is that he has a set of principles that he adheres to.
1) Once you're in a relationship, the girl should be doing 70-80% of the texting if she has high interest.
2) The man is not interested in a friendship, being her gay male girlfriend or doing things friends do like movies and lunch dates.
3) The strongest negotiating power in any relationship or business transaction is to walk away and not look back and mean it.
The idea behind data analysis and principles is that we want to be able to predict future behavior. When my last girlfriend started seeing someone else I knew it long before she told me because she violated my principles.
1) She had done 71% of the texting for the previous 6 months, and 79% over the previous 1 month when she changed (the divorce was the first change, but somewhere during her move she caught feelings for someone else). Suddenly her initiation ratio fell to 50% (what it was when we first started dating). Watch out for this, guys.
2) She asked for a lunch (versus guaranteed sex) date when I hadn't seen her in 3 weeks. She had never asked for a lunch date, she would usually say "I'm so excited to see you! How should I do my hair for you, my love?" Now it was "Oh, wait, I forgot I have court... can we do lunch?" That started a stalemate (she then offered a dinner date but said she had to know what time she would be home to help her roommate). I said no to that too. Then I asked out one more time and she said "I'm in love with someone else" and I said "I know, remember?"
3) I walked away on my terms and I feel great. She will have to reach out if she wants to ever hear from me again. She was the one who unilaterally changed the terms of our relationship.
1) Once you're in a relationship, the girl should be doing 70-80% of the texting if she has high interest.
2) The man is not interested in a friendship, being her gay male girlfriend or doing things friends do like movies and lunch dates.
3) The strongest negotiating power in any relationship or business transaction is to walk away and not look back and mean it.
The idea behind data analysis and principles is that we want to be able to predict future behavior. When my last girlfriend started seeing someone else I knew it long before she told me because she violated my principles.
1) She had done 71% of the texting for the previous 6 months, and 79% over the previous 1 month when she changed (the divorce was the first change, but somewhere during her move she caught feelings for someone else). Suddenly her initiation ratio fell to 50% (what it was when we first started dating). Watch out for this, guys.
2) She asked for a lunch (versus guaranteed sex) date when I hadn't seen her in 3 weeks. She had never asked for a lunch date, she would usually say "I'm so excited to see you! How should I do my hair for you, my love?" Now it was "Oh, wait, I forgot I have court... can we do lunch?" That started a stalemate (she then offered a dinner date but said she had to know what time she would be home to help her roommate). I said no to that too. Then I asked out one more time and she said "I'm in love with someone else" and I said "I know, remember?"
3) I walked away on my terms and I feel great. She will have to reach out if she wants to ever hear from me again. She was the one who unilaterally changed the terms of our relationship.