Have you ever had someone hate you with such a passion?

[Effington]

My best friend had a new girlfriend awhile back that was pretty cool. Anyway, the first week or so they were dating, we had a party and she brought a couple of her friends. Just being friendly, I introduced myself to one of them, let's call her Jill.

Apparently, we had met the week before and I didn't remember her. She busted on me for not remembering her, so I replied, "Well, I guess you didn't leave that big of an impression!" Put lightly, that seemed to have touched a nerve. She continued to get on my case for the rest of the night, randomly coming up to me and introducing herself to me. I thought it was kind of cute, so played back.

After a couple interactions like that, she started to get plain mean with straight insults. My response was always to bust her right back, and that just fueled her more. After a couple hours she was doing things like randomly punching me (not lightly, either), spilling drinks, and being very rude to me when I was talking to other girls. It was clearly not flirting, and was just obnoxious.

I tried to stay away from her for the rest of the night because she was really on my nerves, but she always seemed to be around and on my case. (The house wasn't that big) It was really, really annoying, and kind of ruined the night, because I couldn't get away from her.

Anyway, fast forward like four months, and still, everytime I saw her (she was apparently best friends with the girl and they went everywhere together) she went way beyond the call of duty to be a *****. The game plan for me everynight was to just try and keep my cool and not fight back, because she was one of those types that will escalate very quickly. On more than one ocassions she would yell how I'm such an ******* and this and that. Basically, the rest of the group would stay silent the entire time, so my choices were either yell back or shut up. When I shut up, she just kept on going, literally for like 10 minutes sometimes. All of this was stemming from the first meeting where I didn't remember her.

I tried talking to my buddy's girl (who was pretty cool) and she just agreed with me that it was irrational, but said that's how Jill was.

End of the line, it appeared Jill had some extreme psychological issues because she's been shot down a bunch of times (she's not ugly, but not really attractive; she's a little chubby, but had a nice big ol' booty and rack). That being said, it's rarely all one person's fault. How would you have handled this better than I did? In most cases I could have walked away, but that would essentially mean I'd just have to go home as we were all hanging out as a group of like 10; she just dominated the whole night by yelling at me.

My buddy and his girl broke up, and I haven't seen the girlfriend or her friend since. (This was awhile ago) So in other words, it was not resolved. While I do not care about this specific individual, I would like to figure out how I could better handle this type of person in the future.

Have you guys ever known someone like that, and how did you handle it?

 

[volkme68]

I was in a similar situation about six months ago. If I replied, I came off childish, and she would just keep going. If i shut up, she would continue to run her mouth. I had finally had enough and told her to f*ck off. I completely blew. It didn't work. My buddy suggested to just make her feel so uncomfortable that she wouldn't want to be around me, so thats what I did. I constantly hit on her, in that sleazy Quagmire way. I told her she had an amzing ass blah blah blah. Long story short, we end up spending the night together. It was some of the best angry sex I ever had. She told me she just wasnt used to having to show interest in guys, and tried to do it like succesful guys hit on girls.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

Well, I'd tell you what I did a few days ago... But yeah...

 

[Magma]

Just another example of a classless woman.

This is how I've handled women like this in my past:

I calmly and very deliberately explain to those around me that this woman has no class (make sure you do this in her presence). This is a manuever that serves a few purposes. First, your casual delivery shows that you yourself DO have class. You have DHV'd yourself to the group and the b1tch. Second, it shows that you have big brass balls and that you don't take this kind of disrespect from a woman. Third, when women are told they have no class, they erupt. And I mean ERUPT! Some of you may be nodding your head in agreement about that. Chicks DO NOT like to be told they have no class. Her reaction reinforces your first statement that she has no class, and she proves your point for you.

I have done this with varying degrees of success. Some of these b1tches will put their hand in your face (The "Talk to the hand" gambit, somehow trying to convey that you aren't even significant enough to talk to her FACE) or will give you the Flat Tire (Pfffffffffttt!!). Both responses are seen as cleverless knee-jerk reactions on her part, and again, reinforces your statement that this woman has ZERO CLASS.

I cannot stand these Ball-Busting B1tches. Which leads me to another point. If you want to find out who the ball-busting b1tch of the group is, just say something like, "Yeah my buddy is dating a real ball-busting b1tch." The BBB is the one who will take offense to that label. Women who are NOT BBB's don't care. It's that easy.

Because I lack brevity, I will answer the OP's primary question: Have you ever had someone hate you with such a passion?

Absolutely. And it was FANTASTIC.

 

[IPalindromeI]

Yes, and it was probably the most athletic and crazy sex I have ever had. Love and hate are equal in depth but are on opposite sides, and while Love makes for great sex - hate makes for some incredible f*cking.

 

[Leporello]

Yes, and it was probably the most athletic and crazy sex I have ever had. Love and hate are equal in depth but are on opposite sides, and while Love makes for great sex - hate makes for some incredible f*cking.

That reminds of about a year ago when me and my FB got into a huge screaming argument about something which is her entire life and I find dumb and morally questionable. I've literally never been yelled at like that my whole life. Then we had the best fvck we'd had in a year.

 

[FireOnTheMountain]

I haven't screamed or yelled at someone in an argument since I was 9 years old and I didn't want to clean up my room.


It seems so immature to me, I don't get why so many "adults" do it.

 

[Effington]

I never really yelled at the girl but a couple times when she went on and on and wouldn't shut it, I gave some choice profanities back at her. All that really accomplished was her just yelling more.

In hindsight I probably could have been less of a pvssy about it all. She had a huge emotional breakdown one night where she complained that no guy ever likes her, and I'll admit it, I took a lot of pleasure in witnessing it. Definitely up there in the most pathetic things I've seen, which made it all the better. This was after a night where I stood my ground and managed to say not one word to her the entire night, when she constantly badgered me.

The next time we went out, we convinced her to hit on a guy that was gay (we didn't tell her he was gay). By the end of the night she was literally rubbing herself up on him really obnoxious/obviously and he was not responding, it was awesome.

I guess if I had to do it all over again I wouldn't have done it the same. Basically, she was yelling profanities for 10 minutes and I sat there and took it, which probably made me come off as a huge pansy. I should have just thrown it back in her face. No one I know can beat me in a game of sarcasm, so I could have layed it on thick.

 

[Prodigy746]

Just another example of a classless woman.

This is how I've handled women like this in my past:

I calmly and very deliberately explain to those around me that this woman has no class (make sure you do this in her presence). This is a manuever that serves a few purposes. First, your casual delivery shows that you yourself DO have class. You have DHV'd yourself to the group and the b1tch. Second, it shows that you have big brass balls and that you don't take this kind of disrespect from a woman. Third, when women are told they have no class, they erupt. And I mean ERUPT! Some of you may be nodding your head in agreement about that. Chicks DO NOT like to be told they have no class. Her reaction reinforces your first statement that she has no class, and she proves your point for you.

I have done this with varying degrees of success. Some of these b1tches will put their hand in your face (The "Talk to the hand" gambit, somehow trying to convey that you aren't even significant enough to talk to her FACE) or will give you the Flat Tire (Pfffffffffttt!!). Both responses are seen as cleverless knee-jerk reactions on her part, and again, reinforces your statement that this woman has ZERO CLASS.

I cannot stand these Ball-Busting B1tches. Which leads me to another point. If you want to find out who the ball-busting b1tch of the group is, just say something like, "Yeah my buddy is dating a real ball-busting b1tch." The BBB is the one who will take offense to that label. Women who are NOT BBB's don't care. It's that easy.

Because I lack brevity, I will answer the OP's primary question: Have you ever had someone hate you with such a passion?

Absolutely. And it was FANTASTIC.

I agree, with what you said but i would first try this

I would pull her to the side and explain to her that i dont appreciate how she is acting and ask her if i did anything to offend her. You obviously forgot that you met her before and that pissed her off so you might want to apologize for that or say that you are not good at remembering people etc. I know a DJ wouldnt do this but you are not trying to pick this girl up , you are trying to get her off your back. If that didnt work than i would do what Magma said.