"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Have you ever dated a girl who is obsessed with you?

Jariel

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I recently found out that I have an obsessive groupie, so to speak. I always knew from her behaviour she had a thing for me, but I never realised to what extent until her friends told me.

Apparently, this girl has had a crush on me for 3 years, talks about me all the time, gets flustered when I'm around and even has photos of me (sent via friends), which she "drools over" according to her friend. It's a little creepy I guess, but I'm really flattered if I'm honest.

Now the thing is, this girl is actually really hot and totally my type! I'm seeing someone else right now, but hypothetically, do you think it would be too risky to get involved with her? She doesn't seem the psychotic type at all, but maybe someone else can share some experiences with a "star struck" girl.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tristan22

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Call me an a$$Hole all you want, but if i'm dating a girl and someone else better comes along--i'm gone :D

Your in a win/win situation. Having girls hot on your trail, only increases stock value.

Way to go :cheer:
 

pimpfromdayone

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Nope, never had a girl like that, but if I were you, I would hold onto her.... if you like her, and she likes you that much, it's just perfect.... you shouldn't even be asking. I wish I had a girl like that. I have had girls who had crushes on me but I always found out when it was way too late.... I wish they would all tell their friends like this girl did for you, it really helps them, as you've demonstrated.
 

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She's nuts now; imagine what will happen when you dump her.
 

pimpfromdayone

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Well, he's not dating her right now first of all, so it's hard to say. It's possible that she starts dating him and then finds out she doesn't really like him that much anymore, especially if things get boring. Right now she is obsessed with a man she can't have. If she could have him, it might be different, but we never know, I guess he should find out. Whatever the case, I think you need to continue treating her how you do now (what caused the attraction in the first place), or you could risk losing it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DonJuanMonk

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Originally posted by tristan22
Call me an a$$Hole all you want, but if i'm dating a girl and someone else better comes along--i'm gone :D

Your in a win/win situation. Having girls hot on your trail, only increases stock value.

Way to go :cheer:
Same deal for me, if a girl isn't 90-95% of what I really want in a woman, and a better girl comes along I'd dump the current and go for the new one.
 

pimpfromdayone

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Well, don't feel bad, the woman would do the same to you.
 

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Originally posted by tristan22
Call me an a$$Hole all you want, but if i'm dating a girl and someone else better comes along--i'm gone :D

Your in a win/win situation. Having girls hot on your trail, only increases stock value.

Way to go :cheer:
That would be the MORAL thing to do. The unmoral thing to do would be stay in a relationship you don't want to be committed too or to bang both of them :crackup:
 

DonJuanMonk

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Originally posted by dirtyvibe
That would be the MORAL thing to do. The unmoral thing to do would be stay in a relationship you don't want to be committed too or to bang both of them :crackup:
Agreed. Paul Newman (the actor) met Joanne Woodward (actress) back in the 1955 while he was married - they both totally clicked and was deeply attracted to each other. yet Paul had 2 kids and a wife - 3 years later, he tried to get a divorce and was literally begging his wife to let him go so he can marry Joanne. At that time Paul was 33, Joanne was 28. To this day they have been married for almost 40 years.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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So pimp its scary

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I had a girlfriend that became obsessed with me... the hardest part was dumping someone that hadn't done anything 'wrong'.

It was absolutely fantastic for a while, but there comes a time where it gets old to have someone worshiping your peis like god.
 

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The girl is hot and crazy about you, what more can a guy want?!
 

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good for relationships, will treat you like gold, impossible to break up with.
 

spider_007

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the thing is, she is obsesed with an image she has in her head. It's not like she really knows "you". it might be fun for a while, but it would turn ugly while lather.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hmmm

That is creepy I would try to avoid her at all costs unless I would try to avoid her at all costs, unless you get super horny
 

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Once I start dating them, they BECOME obsessed with me

I don't consider a girl my exclusive girlfriend until they have demonstrated nearly complete and utter devotion to me.

If they don't have the good taste/intelligence to know how lucky she is to have my time and attention, then I simply move on.

It makes life SO much easier when they are completely into me.
 

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ya

obsession (if she's truly obsessed) is not something to mess around with... you could run the risk of ending up in a really dysfunctional relationship... a girl that has time to spend drooling over your pictures (and the looniness to collect pictures of you from your friends) probably has dependency issues.

Do what your heart & mind agree is best, but be ready to find a hair doll or a shrine.
 

pimpfromdayone

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Who cares WHAT her problem is, she is obsessed with you, you can't lose. Having someone worship you never gets old.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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