CapedCrusader08
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Again, I wouldn't even know if someone is attracted/interested in me. I don't know. Do I come off as shy or unaproachable,or are girls just *****es?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You're horrible! How could you use her like that?Duffdog said:I don't know about never taking the initiative. Just yesterday there was this girl over to see my roommate, she brought a "friend"... ugh. So anyways, she tried absolutely everything to get me. And it was so overt it was crazy-- she asked if I was hungry, left and bought dinner for me, brought it back to my house, served me, cleaned my house and then stared at me from the couch across the livingroom for an hour while I ignored her. She then blurts out "I think I have a crush on your roommate" (me) to my roommate in a kinda sorta way that she didn't think I could hear. I then turn to her and say:
"To date me, you must satisfy the following three prerequisites: You must be blonde, size 0-6 and drive a BMW. Currently, you have no chance."
I think that AFC's do take the initiative, but its so misguided and sad that their target has no choice but to stomp on them.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
DonJuan11 said:Don't put them down, I doubt you look like Brad either.
The reason the less attractive girls are more aggressive in going after what they want is that they have less options. It's the same reason guys like the hotter, thinner, girls, as they are more scarce. Just like anything in life, if you are scarce and have value, your price goes up. That's why I never understand when guys say the hot girls never get hit on or wish they weren't hot. It's almost like saying the rich kids wish they weren't rich, makes no sense. The better looking guys who are jocks always make sure they sex the hot girls hard and fast, the never go after the less attractive, by-in-large overweight ones.
Does you ego get bruised if a more overweight, less attractive girl doesn't return your call or cancels on you? Of course not.
Does your ego get bruised if a hot, thin girl that everyone wants tells you where to go? More than likely
I hope you are joking. I didn't do anything, I just let this female attempt to buy my affection. When I stomped on her self esteem, you would think that she would give up...but nooooooo, she keeps trying to win me over. Much like any hot girl will do with a chump guy. As far as I am concerned, hot guys are allowed to be mean just like hot girls are allowed to be *****es.2.0 said:You're horrible! How could you use her like that?