Have you been refused a Hug?

[SamePendo]

Have you ever been refused a Hug?

If you have, please share your story on how absolutely akwardly you asked for the hug.

Give hugs left and right, for whatever reason. Hugs won't be refused. Practice with people you know, and you'll get used to, and will give hugs everytime. Hugging is great kino, but has to be reinforced with sexual kino and interaction in general, because if not you'll be a friend, not a lover.

 

[sparky0000]

hugs should only be done if it is your gf or a relative. otherwise it is very gay. lots of gay guys go around hugging every single girl they know. they hug the chubsters all the damn time. first, they have to hug the girls they work or go to school with. then they hug old friends or friends of another gay friend. amazing. in the usa when i see a guy hugging a girl the first thing i think of is, "dude is gay." don't you? there is a big difference between a "friend" hug and a "romantic" hug.

in my life, i have given many more hugs to men. i often hug guys that i haven't seen in a long time. it has absolutely no sexual implications. simply a sign of affection. i also give lots of kisses to my ukrainian and russian male friends. many italian and greek guys kiss one another as well. nothing gay at all by it. the first time i had a ukrainian dude come close for a kiss on the cheeks it felt a bit odd. you get use to it though.

BTW, a girl will shy away from giving a hug to a guy who she has the hots for. unless it is already her bf. she won't turn you down, but she will not initiate the hug. if she doesn't have the hots for you she will probably be much more apt to give you a giant bear hug. grrrrr....why? because she is nervous. believe it or not, you losers don't realize that girls are more uptight about guys than you are about girls. yes, that is true.

 

[Jariel]

I agree with you on this Samependo. Hugging, even just female friends, is a good way to get comfortable with human contact.

 

[orthanc]

Yeah, it was incredibly awkward. I performed w/ my singing group, and a girl who was obviously interested in me (asking when I was going to be doing a solo, saying "yay orthanc!" at the end of every song, etc) walks up afterwards. After about 30 seconds meaningless banter, she opens her arms as if she wants a hug. I oblige, and she hurredly pulls away, saying that she only wants to take a picture. It was very strange, and kind of ruined the vibe.

 

[musclyjerk]

No, they're for girls.

The Muscly Jerk

 

[Docs]

I dunno, I find hugs really effective. It sets you both set up for the kiss close (and I had a little wacked out experience a couple nights ago), because if it happens that you end up just holding each other after the hug...you can kinda figure out whats going on...what she wants..

Only, I wasn't sure how interested she was because she's been just a friend for years and years and I wasn't focused on attraction or anything, I just wanted to say goodbye and we locked eyes for a bit...felt weird.

Shiit.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Hugs are usually attempted on chubby people who have large breasts so you can feel them rub against your chest if you hug them briefly.

I used to be a big fan of hugs last year until I came to realise that k-close, and f-closes mean something, and hugs do not mean anything in terms of sexual expression, but are just good for contact.

 

[blinkwatt]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=109071

It all depends on how it's done.

 

[Demon]

BTW, a girl will shy away from giving a hug to a guy who she has the hots for. unless it is already her bf. she won't turn you down, but she will not initiate the hug. if she doesn't have the hots for you she will probably be much more apt to give you a giant bear hug. grrrrr....why? because she is nervous.

That's the dumbest thing I've ever read, next to anything skip2mylou ever wrote.

 

[Scorched]

I give half hugs at the beginning and end of first dates. (Playing hard to get)
It helps breaks down the physical contact barrier...
Makes her feel more comfortable! Protected etc...

I've had a few girls on 2nd dates give me half hugs just like I gave them on the first. I would tease them and say, wow you give BAD HUGS!

Slowly the hugs get longer and tighter.
They let me know how comfortable a girl is with me.
If she is LJBF or what not...

I've gone to parties and had girls I had not seen in over a year just come up and hug me. All their new girl friends were immediately drown to me. They were WAY easier to talk to and get to know.

 

[DJDamage]

The street pimp will give it to you stright.

NOW SOME OF YOU MAY BE DESPERATE TO TOUCH A WOMAN

and hugging is as close as you are ever gunna get LOL

to me i see alot of chicks running around hugging everyone

to me thats a f*cking insult when they try that sh*t with me

and when i reject their hugs

THEY LOOK AT ME DIFFERENTLY ( i am the prize )

now i will explain

when the chicks in the group they hug mike then hug joe

now they wanna hug me

obviously the hug means NOTHING its to make THEM feel better

all you people who say you need chicks to hug you in the streets to make you feel all warm and fuzzy

stop right now get off the internet and call you mother

get her to remind you how much she loves you and how her " special hugs " make you feel like you are worth something is this dark and lonely world

now if i am alone with some chick and she asks if she can hug me

OFCOURSE I LET HER

she wants to get damn close to me cause she is feeling me

ITS REAL

none of these fake hollywood hugs that attention wh0res feed to AFCs

and to the people that are a bit slow

OFCOURSE YOU CAN HUG YOUR GIRLFRIEND

during sex.... lol

maybe after sex if she nags you....



now the last thing you want when you running game is b*tches dissin' you

that hug is an hug for AFCs

it is ******** for I DONT THINK YOU ARE MATE MATERIAL

the b*tch is advertising that you in her friend zone to every other chick in the area

is that bad ?

ofcourse it is ! you want good social proofing not chicks painting you with a neon sign that says FRIEND ZONE cause other chicks see that and their brain thinks

HE MUST NOT BE ALPHA CAUSE BETTY SAYS SO ( her hug )

chicks want competition they want something that is in demand

chick wants to hug you and rub her body up against you

sure we can allow that because it sets a good example for the other ladies in eyesight to follow


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[Mental]

Have you ever been refused a Hug?

If you have, please share your story on how absolutely akwardly you asked for the hug.

Give hugs left and right, for whatever reason. Hugs won't be refused. Practice with people you know, and you'll get used to, and will give hugs everytime. Hugging is great kino, but has to be reinforced with sexual kino and interaction in general, because if not you'll be a friend, not a lover.

I'm sure I have at some time in my earlier days. What annoys me is the abrasive guys who go for the hug, and then it's akward that I'm the only one who doesn't beg for one (or therefore get one)...

However, some chicks have told me that it's really akward when guys go for the hug when the chick isn't interested. So I don't hug anyone but my best female friends, as a general rule. And while I may not get as many hugs, I think I'm coming across as a person who doesn't invade personal space.

Actually, if she goes for an akward ("I'm obligated to hug you because I'm a chick") type of hug, then I stand back and say, "Oh no. No hug from me. You have to EARN it." (I can't take credit for this one...this is actually a line from a friend who had learned he was being stabbed in the back by some friends; they went for a handshake and the kiss-ass phoney behavior; and when he shot back with that, it was the funniest thing I had seen).

Sometimes, chick will just randomly hug. It's a little odd. I had a couple of chicks who I thought didn't care much for me... but then they went right to me for the hug, so maybe I'm just being a little paranoid sometimes. I give the quick hug usually if they're in the process of GIVING hugs to everyone.

It depends on when I use the line.

I had one older B*tch refuse a handshake when I was meeting her for a business meeting. I introduced myself, and stuck out the hand... (it wasn't that she was a germaphobe or anything) she actually sneered at me. (ooh, she's a FUN one!)... I called her on one or two things when she started bragging and lying about things, which was great. I managed to put her in her place while being the good guy.

So later, she actually tries to go for a handshake with me... and I give her that line. "No no...You have to EARN it." She looked totally shocked. It was flipping hilarious. Especially after refusing to shake MY hand.

As for the hug, I don't remember a specific, exact moment right now, so I'll have to come back to that one.

Happy holidays.

 

[Rebound Material]

We used to hug eachother all the time and it wasn't one of those b!tch hugs where they would hug you to the side with only one arm. It was a nice and warm/intimate full body contact hug.

She later on refused me cuz she hated me =P.

 

[asdfghjkl]

One of my favorite early kino moves is that after the hug i trail my fingers across their backs, and if im really intrested i will lower the hand a little bit. (No, dont touch her ass) Girls seem to love it when you touch their backs and the trails always seem to warm them up to me.

 

[Jariel]

I dunno, I find hugs really effective. It sets you both set up for the kiss close (and I had a little wacked out experience a couple nights ago), because if it happens that you end up just holding each other after the hug...you can kinda figure out whats going on...what she wants..

Absolutely! I generally hug any females goodbye after I've spent time with them. You can feel the difference between a friendly casual hug and one that should lead to a kiss. The hug hangs a little longer than usual and there's an awkward tension after you pull apart as the girl lingers hoping you will kiss her.

Plus, if you are in shape, it's a good chance to let them feel it! A few girls have admitted that hugging me turned them on a little, and I'll admit I've been turned on a little by hugging some women too.

 

[d9930380]

I agree with both what Jariel and Lost In Translation said.

I have been hugged by attention *****s and it is to give the guy a little something (like a drug dealer) so he will come back for more plus I've also hugged and K or F Closed. I've also hugged plenty of girls that just see me as a friend and I just see them as a friend.

It means nothing!

 

[d9930380]

Oh but I would probably if pushed say it's a bad sign especially if you don't turn it around quickly.

 

[SamePendo]

Look at the poll result. If you voted and said no, and didn't post the reason that was so, you know you were very creepy/awkward/etc.

I started thinking about this when I saw my brother, who one could say is a recovering AFC, was signaled by a male relative to give a hug, and he responded with body language that made you cry, didn't even know how to give the hug. Hugs will help newbies get comfortable with touch and physical interaction, whether it gets them laid or not is irrelevant at that point.

LIT has a point, and so does Jariel. As I said in the first post, Hugging is great kino, but has to be reinforced with sexual kino and interaction in general, because if not you'll be a friend, not a lover.

Hugging by itself isn't necessarily a sexual kino move.

 

[DJDamage]

If guys are so desperate for a hug they can always do what this guy is doing and walk around holding a big sign. Talk about getting an immediate social proof!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BngEhhdg4lw