Have you become more concious to this crap?

[The Mad Ghost]

Do you consciously see through bvullsh!t with girls after discovering and being unplugged from the matrix so to speak? Do you constantly notice things which warrant a next or reason to discard ones number, I can't recall these types of events happening below before discovering the community:

- Texting girl for a few hours or some days, you then call, and they ask who it is? WTF?

- I called another girl from an online hook-up, seemed interested online. Then when I called her, she said I was arrogant. I just rang her, said hello, she asked who it was, I told her, then she said I was arrogant and doesn't like my personality, no sh!t.

These are somewhat funny and inessential, but obnoxious and time-wasting at the sametime.

Are these Sh!t Tests? Because if they're, I really haven't got the energy or inclination to play it out, or to pretend I care about their feelings or what they do in their personal free-time.

I texted back the first girl, claiming a statement I made to her online, she then pretended to act like she remembered who I was. Can anyone explain, logically, why somebody might do this? A guy/male just wouldn't do that. I don't think its playing mind-games, because it was so obvious, so what is that?

It's alright for chicks to be weird though right? LMAO.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

Yeah, I've noticed loads of things since I joined this site.
I've recently been dumped by a girl, and the thing which I notice the most at the moment is the bull**** excuses. "I've got a lot going on," "the spark has gone from our relationship," and all the other generalistic bull**** which any girl could say and technically it isn't a lie because they can pull up examples to back it up. When really, what they're saying is, "I don't feel attracted to you anymore."

 

[The Mad Ghost]

I can understand that.

99.9% of the time, if I had not been here, in the community and I was breaking up with a chick. It would've been because of arguements, massive fights, disagree on everything, fighting, me cheating, me flirting with her friends etc and agree on BOTH terms to break. But now, a break up would be much more in-depth based off of some faulty reasoning which gets worse periodically, where you're to blame because of something she doesn't feel for you anymore. I can't put a finger on it, maybe I'm analyzing trivial matters.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

No you're right.

I ****ed it up with my ex, let her get too comfortable, was too available, seeing her every weekend etc when before I met her I was out with friends all the time. She's a bit weird, I honstly think that the way I was with her wouldn't have been enough to get many girls to dump me, but obviously it was with her. One day I'll post the story on here to get some critique to make sure I don't do it again, currently though I just want her out. of. my. head, until I've moved on.

But, yes, they're all generic, predictable, and essentially liars, except for the few that the previous poster mentioned. At the end of the day, the way I've learnt to describe it is, would a girl dump Bradd Pitt because she has a "lot going on," no, would she ****. Therefore it's a lie.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

When a man first unplugs, it is common for him to become jaded for awhile.

I did. Then, I created my positive mental attitude, and I have fun in my dealings with women, despite knowing the ugly truth. But the truth is only as ugly as you believe it to be, so you eventually overcome the negativity, if you decide to do so.

 

[Kenny Powers]

Being unplugged was the best thing that ever happened to me!!! I was such an AFC with this girl I liked. We were good buds and I was way too available and unchallenging. I don't blame her for never sleeping with me, I was a *****. She lived a few floors below me and would come into me room in her sexy workout outfit and talk to me before going. I thought she was flirting, but really it was just being a huge attention ***** cause she loved to show off her body and control my attention. If I had discovered SS back then I would have ignored her more. So sad that I missed my chance, but oh well live and learn

Women also tend to piss me off more now. I'm not a hater but now that I can see through their bullshiit I get annoyed and frustrated. I really value the good ones more too now

 

[BobMo']

Females are MEAN creatures. Because they've always been physically weaker than males, they've developed defenses that aim at our weaknesses (one of our biggest is believing the "sugar and spice" bs.)

OP's attitude....."I really haven't got the energy or inclination to play it out, or to pretend I care about their feelings or what they do in their personal free-time...." will only get him so far, though. Sometimes, you've got to play along to get along.

 

[The Mad Ghost]

you've got to play along to get along.

In so many words, you're saying to 'Grin and Bear' right?

Accept the situation, because there is nothing you can do about it? To me, that sounds like buckling down to cowardism and the conforming of how girls want things to play out. That is not a 'Don Juan'. Don Juan's don't buckle down to the notion of lesser satisfactory.

Questions need confrontation here:

• Why do girls feel it neccesary to give a dude there contact details, but not make anything of it, or play it out until they're comfortable in ways of a coward (not answering or prolonged phone/text convo), knowing very well they gave out there details with no intentions of advancing the interaction?

• Why aren't they to the point, I don't buy into the whole "It's cos girls have a tendency to coward-out when turning a guy down they aren't interested in, examples are, unanswered calls and texts, voicemailing, low interest after interaction etc), why would they give out the contact details if they never had any intentions of advancing in the first place, isn't it said in basic seduction textbook, that a girl knows whether she wants to have sex/get to know you in so-and-so seconds/mins?

• I feel as though, it's a good versus evil concept. You have good intentions, lets say you don't even want to 'Pump N Dump' a chick and genuinely want to hang out with her (recreational activities), but you can't even do that, because she is flaking, playing games (cat and mouse) and trying her hardest not to be a chaser of men. It just fvcks everything up.

So basically, from the replies so far. It's 'Accept the situation, as you know the drill, but put on a brave face'. Internally eliminate the bad from the situation and show your internal good-side, the good face, as the bad face will not help you with women. Being jaded, angry, bitter won't help you, so does being a grin and bearer, good inner-gamist help, yet I don't see many guys who claim to be enlightened, having tail chase them?

 

[5string]

We cut them too much slack because they have a cooch and we want it. They know this.

This is why many are outright mean. They think they have more value due to their female anatomy.

 

[The Mad Ghost]

This is why many are outright mean. They think they have more value due to their female anatomy.

I dislike the use of ''mean and women'' I don't see them as mean, just oblivious. Because its easy for them to say, ''We only seem mean, when you're not wanted''. It's just a degrading word for a man to class women as ''mean'', and I don't mean degrading the woman.