"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i have to see my bpd ex tomorrow to sign some paperwork. She’s been trying to Hoover me for a while and I’ve succesfully avoided her but now I have no choice.

I successfully left the relationship. The problem is I’m too forgiving person of a person and I get over **** too quickly.

Really hope I don’t have a weak moment and try to bang her. She’s sexy but I can’t get involved with this woman for my emotional health.i already know she’s probably gonna show up in some heels and tight pants all done up
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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For the record for all the guys that have been ****ed over by borderlines, that’s not nearly as painful as having to leave one. The real mind **** is this- i have to leave a drop dead gorgeous woman that lives only 10 miles away to rot away. I don’t want her back but part of my does feel somewhat guilty for bailing on her even though it’s not my job to save her and I owe her nothing. Man sometimes I just ask myself...if only she were normal.
 
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My previous BPD was what I would consider my soulmate and in the end I had to let her go, so I can relate. Without the BPD she would've been perfect. What I've learn is that you can't save people from themselves if they don't want to. It's a harsh truth, but you have to face reality if you want to be successful.
 
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