Have never been this depressed before

[cali4nialove]

Any Master Don Juans or "Pros" I can talk to about girls.

 

[zenaddict]

I`ve been depressed for years, I had my challenged with women, I`m here and listening

 

[cali4nialove]

I will PM you man :/

 

[JohnChops]

Explain. Depression is you letting your mind THINK you are depressed. If you THINK you are depressed then you will be depressed, if you think you are happy you WILL be happy. You can manipulate your mind to do anything you want.

I see no point in being depressed, no matter how hard life is. If you are depressed about women then your mindset is way off man. Women aren't your happiness, women are FUN. Happiness and Joy come from within, self happiness is how you never become depressed.

Depression is horrible on the physical and emotional aspects of your body. You know people actually die of depression? It stresses your heart out more than you think.

 

[cali4nialove]

Explain. Depression is you letting your mind THINK you are depressed. If you THINK you are depressed then you will be depressed, if you think you are happy you WILL be happy. You can manipulate your mind to do anything you want.

I see no point in being depressed, no matter how hard life is. If you are depressed about women then your mindset is way off man. Women aren't your happiness, women are FUN. Happiness and Joy come from within, self happiness is how you never become depressed.

Depression is horrible on the physical and emotional aspects of your body. You know people actually die of depression? It stresses your heart out more than you think.

Main reason: Just pisses me of how everyone I know at school gets hookups so easily and everyone does it while I sit there like a loser wishing I was them. Yesterday after noticing how saddened I was when me and my friend were talkin about my oneitis and he told me about how one time he heard someone finished on her face. I realized this whole time I've been hiding from reality, Ive been making myself feel good with the false lies that other people dont do anything with the opposite gender either. But now that I know everyone does it except for me, its pissing me off.

Havent been on a date with a girl in years. I need to start again and stop being so ***** about going in for a single kiss.

haha Im too scared to even go in for a kiss. What a faggot am I

 

[JohnChops]

Main reason: Just pisses me of how everyone I know at school gets hookups so easily and everyone does it while I sit there like a loser wishing I was them. Yesterday after noticing how saddened I was when me and my friend were talkin about my oneitis and he told me about how one time he heard someone finished on her face. I realized this whole time I've been hiding from reality, Ive been making myself feel good with the false lies that other people dont do anything with the opposite gender either. But now that I know everyone does it except for me, its pissing me off.

Havent been on a date with a girl in years. I need to start again and stop being so ***** about going in for a single kiss.

haha Im too scared to even go in for a kiss. What a faggot am I

Well #1 don't talk down on yourself. EVER.

#2. Me and you are quite alike. I had a oneitis, during my senior year of high school, towards the end at least. You are in a depressive stage, youll travel through an anger stage / hatred towards women, then at the acceptance stage you'll be closer to a full healing.

Ha, finished on her face? I feel like everyone who has had a oneitis had a oneitis with a slvt, so was mine. My oneitis got AROUND, i remember she was telling me a story about how it was her birthday and she called a guy over to bang and he sucked so bad at it she told him to leave and then called over another dude. ..... don't feel bad about your oneitis girl. Clearly you still have some type of feeling for her, and moping about it isnt going to help

Highschool was a killer time once i dropped emotion, started having fun, and lived life. I'm telling you, do not sit around you have to take action! ACTION! Action is how you get out of ruts, forget about people who hurt you , and most importantly move on.

Moving on may seem so hard but depending on your feelings for this girl it may take some time. People are going to say "oh blah blah find a new girl and spin plates" Those stupid fvcks obviously have never been in our situation. When you are depressed like you are, finding women is like the last thing on your mind because obviously your oneitis is the only thing on your mind. Its tough to go hunt for new women to get over a oneitis while you still have feelings for a oneitis. You simply just do NOT want to do it, you don't even want any other girls but that "one". That will subside eventually and then once it eases up, just a bit, you'll have the courage to go out and find new girls even though you are still a little hurt. Then the snowball effect occurs and you'll have all these new girls with that oneitis being an after though, if that.

I know where you're coming from, you hear that oneitis girls name and you have like a spike shoot through your thought processes in your brain and you start thinking about her. Happens to me once and awhile, only for a couple minutes then I just think about something else, something that makes me happy. Then all those negative thoughts about good ol' oneitis go away, and im back just in a matter of minutes. Of course this takes time, sh1t took me 2 years so don't feel bad man.

Enjoy high school, enjoy life, seriously high school was so much fun. Go out with your friends, and do not be that depressed guy. Read some uplifting material in the DJB that always gets me to a happy place. Good luck man, pm me if you need anything.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If a typical woman wasn't some guy's wh0re, at least at some point in her life, then most of us would have never been born. What you have been conditioned to expect out of women is not the same as what you'll end up finding.

 

[gravityeyelids]

Oneitis is arguably the greatest thing that can happen to an AFC/ budding DJ, especially when you are already reading pickup. Allow me to explain. This is 100% true

About two or three years ago I was finally fed up with watching all the guys at my college (and previously highschool) around me seemingly getting girls and hooking up while I was still floundering, hoping to "get lucky". And it truly was "getting lucky"... I have always been a decent looking guy, but with no self esteem, that doesn't get you far. Girls scared the **** out of me, and I relied on the few and far between drunk makeouts to keep me from feeling like total garbage. This girl came into my life. She was great and friendly and we "hit it off" really well. This was before I had really understood the concept of the friend zone. We started to hangout all of the time, and although I never kissed her or touched her, it felt great to be around an attractive girl and I figured we'd end up together. So one day I worked up the gall to tell her I liked her. And (big surprise!) she told me she only thought of me as a friend.

I felt like total sh!t. I was determined to make her mine. The whole situation angered me and frustrated me to no end. I decided I would do something about it. I started surfing the net and came upon PUA type stuff. I was enthralled and immediately began reading everything I could. I decided to get in shape. Not one of those passing phase "oh, i'm going to do some bicep curls" things. No. I was going to get f*cking jacked, just like all the d-bags that were snatching up the women around me while I had no affection from said women.

I would use my brains to conquer their brawn. As I began reading about both pickup and working out, I started to realize how both were COMPLETELY mental. Working out required a deep understanding of both diet and the science of exercise, and when implemented correctly, would be many times more efficient that those meatheads who just threw barbells around and ate cheeseburgers all day. Even the physical force of working out was dependent on the mental ability to say "no! I wont stop even though it fu<king hurts!" I used my deep anger, depression, and self-loathing and channeled it into carving myself completely into a new person so that I could win this girl.

I had previously been a "nice" guy. But no more. I started to allow myself to get mean. I didn't let people push me around anymore. I stopped apologizing to people and went after what I WANTED. Screw them. I was going to be an ******* and didn't care. I read page after page of PUA, Self-Improvement, Nutrition and Fitness book. But, above all, I implemented what I was learning. I completed a 90 day fitness program (one of those that ends in an X ). I felt on top of the world. And then I fu<king did it AGAIN. I continued to work on my skills with women. Rejection after rejection hardened me to not care. The girl I was chasing and her friends saw my new physique one day and commented "what happened to HIM??". But it wasn't just my body. I was changing who I was, for the better. I stopped apologizing and held my head higher, worked on my body language, tone of voice, physical presence, everything. Over the course of the last two years I have been committed to showing the world that I'm better, smarter, stronger, and more capable than everyone else. And I am a guy that women will love to be with.

After a while, do you know what happened? I started to lose interest in that girl. I made myself go after other women, which she saw and was impressed by. But I never looked back and was glad to have her as a great friend. And in turn, she introduced me to many of her attractive ladyfriends that I would get to know. And friends of their friends. And so on. This post is not meant for me to brag, and i'm not going to apologize if that's what it sounds like, because I've grown to love myself, and you will too.

Some of the greatest men in history were driven to create and achieve fantastic things because of a girl that dumped them, or broke their hearts, or didn't love them back. In the words of RATM: "ANGER IS A GIFT!". Get fu<king pissed at the world, other men, b!tches, society, AND yourself. I'm not saying to be an angry, depressed person. Just the opposite, channel those into something productive and then show the world your happy, positive side. But let it drive you. Oh yea, and watch that locker room scene with Al Pacino from Any Given Sunday.

Much love.

 

[cali4nialove]

Oneitis is arguably the greatest thing that can happen to an AFC/ budding DJ, especially when you are already reading pickup. Allow me to explain. This is 100% true

About two or three years ago I was finally fed up with watching all the guys at my college (and previously highschool) around me seemingly getting girls and hooking up while I was still floundering, hoping to "get lucky". And it truly was "getting lucky"... I have always been a decent looking guy, but with no self esteem, that doesn't get you far. Girls scared the **** out of me, and I relied on the few and far between drunk makeouts to keep me from feeling like total garbage. This girl came into my life. She was great and friendly and we "hit it off" really well. This was before I had really understood the concept of the friend zone. We started to hangout all of the time, and although I never kissed her or touched her, it felt great to be around an attractive girl and I figured we'd end up together. So one day I worked up the gall to tell her I liked her. And (big surprise!) she told me she only thought of me as a friend.

I felt like total sh!t. I was determined to make her mine. The whole situation angered me and frustrated me to no end. I decided I would do something about it. I started surfing the net and came upon PUA type stuff. I was enthralled and immediately began reading everything I could. I decided to get in shape. Not one of those passing phase "oh, i'm going to do some bicep curls" things. No. I was going to get f*cking jacked, just like all the d-bags that were snatching up the women around me while I had no affection from said women.

I would use my brains to conquer their brawn. As I began reading about both pickup and working out, I started to realize how both were COMPLETELY mental. Working out required a deep understanding of both diet and the science of exercise, and when implemented correctly, would be many times more efficient that those meatheads who just threw barbells around and ate cheeseburgers all day. Even the physical force of working out was dependent on the mental ability to say "no! I wont stop even though it fu<king hurts!" I used my deep anger, depression, and self-loathing and channeled it into carving myself completely into a new person so that I could win this girl.

I had previously been a "nice" guy. But no more. I started to allow myself to get mean. I didn't let people push me around anymore. I stopped apologizing to people and went after what I WANTED. Screw them. I was going to be an ******* and didn't care. I read page after page of PUA, Self-Improvement, Nutrition and Fitness book. But, above all, I implemented what I was learning. I completed a 90 day fitness program (one of those that ends in an X ). I felt on top of the world. And then I fu<king did it AGAIN. I continued to work on my skills with women. Rejection after rejection hardened me to not care. The girl I was chasing and her friends saw my new physique one day and commented "what happened to HIM??". But it wasn't just my body. I was changing who I was, for the better. I stopped apologizing and held my head higher, worked on my body language, tone of voice, physical presence, everything. Over the course of the last two years I have been committed to showing the world that I'm better, smarter, stronger, and more capable than everyone else. And I am a guy that women will love to be with.

After a while, do you know what happened? I started to lose interest in that girl. I made myself go after other women, which she saw and was impressed by. But I never looked back and was glad to have her as a great friend. And in turn, she introduced me to many of her attractive ladyfriends that I would get to know. And friends of their friends. And so on. This post is not meant for me to brag, and i'm not going to apologize if that's what it sounds like, because I've grown to love myself, and you will too.

Some of the greatest men in history were driven to create and achieve fantastic things because of a girl that dumped them, or broke their hearts, or didn't love them back. In the words of RATM: "ANGER IS A GIFT!". Get fu<king pissed at the world, other men, b!tches, society, AND yourself. I'm not saying to be an angry, depressed person. Just the opposite, channel those into something productive and then show the world your happy, positive side. But let it drive you. Oh yea, and watch that locker room scene with Al Pacino from Any Given Sunday.

Much love.

Damn bro. Your story inspires me so much. Cus you're just like I am now. Im lucky to be reading all this stuff at such a young age...most of the members on this site wish to have had this info earlier. I WILL improve. I WILL change. I WILL rise from the ashes of my old self. Thanks man.

 

[foreverAFC]

Main reason: Just pisses me of how everyone I know at school gets hookups so easily and everyone does it while I sit there like a loser wishing I was them. Yesterday after noticing how saddened I was when me and my friend were talkin about my oneitis and he told me about how one time he heard someone finished on her face. I realized this whole time I've been hiding from reality, Ive been making myself feel good with the false lies that other people dont do anything with the opposite gender either. But now that I know everyone does it except for me, its pissing me off.

Havent been on a date with a girl in years. I need to start again and stop being so ***** about going in for a single kiss.

haha Im too scared to even go in for a kiss. What a faggot am I

what do you to better yourself? get a gym membership and start lifting weights, start doing martial arts. time to work on yourself, it takes time and effort to transform into something better.

 

[foreverAFC]

"ANGER IS A GIFT!"

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yes it can be if you are able to harness it and control it, check out this clip of pro bodybuilder kai greense talking about how one can use inner rage to push oneself, i love this clip

http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=c30_1347941963

 

[TheStig]

Oneitis is arguably the greatest thing that can happen to an AFC/ budding DJ, especially when you are already reading pickup. Allow me to explain. This is 100% true

About two or three years ago I was finally fed up with watching all the guys at my college (and previously highschool) around me seemingly getting girls and hooking up while I was still floundering, hoping to "get lucky". And it truly was "getting lucky"... I have always been a decent looking guy, but with no self esteem, that doesn't get you far. Girls scared the **** out of me, and I relied on the few and far between drunk makeouts to keep me from feeling like total garbage. This girl came into my life. She was great and friendly and we "hit it off" really well. This was before I had really understood the concept of the friend zone. We started to hangout all of the time, and although I never kissed her or touched her, it felt great to be around an attractive girl and I figured we'd end up together. So one day I worked up the gall to tell her I liked her. And (big surprise!) she told me she only thought of me as a friend.

I felt like total sh!t. I was determined to make her mine. The whole situation angered me and frustrated me to no end. I decided I would do something about it. I started surfing the net and came upon PUA type stuff. I was enthralled and immediately began reading everything I could. I decided to get in shape. Not one of those passing phase "oh, i'm going to do some bicep curls" things. No. I was going to get f*cking jacked, just like all the d-bags that were snatching up the women around me while I had no affection from said women.

I would use my brains to conquer their brawn. As I began reading about both pickup and working out, I started to realize how both were COMPLETELY mental. Working out required a deep understanding of both diet and the science of exercise, and when implemented correctly, would be many times more efficient that those meatheads who just threw barbells around and ate cheeseburgers all day. Even the physical force of working out was dependent on the mental ability to say "no! I wont stop even though it fu<king hurts!" I used my deep anger, depression, and self-loathing and channeled it into carving myself completely into a new person so that I could win this girl.

I had previously been a "nice" guy. But no more. I started to allow myself to get mean. I didn't let people push me around anymore. I stopped apologizing to people and went after what I WANTED. Screw them. I was going to be an ******* and didn't care. I read page after page of PUA, Self-Improvement, Nutrition and Fitness book. But, above all, I implemented what I was learning. I completed a 90 day fitness program (one of those that ends in an X ). I felt on top of the world. And then I fu<king did it AGAIN. I continued to work on my skills with women. Rejection after rejection hardened me to not care. The girl I was chasing and her friends saw my new physique one day and commented "what happened to HIM??". But it wasn't just my body. I was changing who I was, for the better. I stopped apologizing and held my head higher, worked on my body language, tone of voice, physical presence, everything. Over the course of the last two years I have been committed to showing the world that I'm better, smarter, stronger, and more capable than everyone else. And I am a guy that women will love to be with.

After a while, do you know what happened? I started to lose interest in that girl. I made myself go after other women, which she saw and was impressed by. But I never looked back and was glad to have her as a great friend. And in turn, she introduced me to many of her attractive ladyfriends that I would get to know. And friends of their friends. And so on. This post is not meant for me to brag, and i'm not going to apologize if that's what it sounds like, because I've grown to love myself, and you will too.

Some of the greatest men in history were driven to create and achieve fantastic things because of a girl that dumped them, or broke their hearts, or didn't love them back. In the words of RATM: "ANGER IS A GIFT!". Get fu<king pissed at the world, other men, b!tches, society, AND yourself. I'm not saying to be an angry, depressed person. Just the opposite, channel those into something productive and then show the world your happy, positive side. But let it drive you. Oh yea, and watch that locker room scene with Al Pacino from Any Given Sunday.

Much love.

Most inspiring post I've read in a looong time

 

[gravityeyelids]

Haha thanks...I put some soul into it.

And cali4nialove I got your back. I know where you're coming from. I don't pretend to be the most experienced one on here, but if you need to rant or ask questions, feel free to shoot me a PM or whatever

 

[JohnChops]

Oneitis is arguably the greatest thing that can happen to an AFC/ budding DJ, especially when you are already reading pickup. Allow me to explain. This is 100% true

About two or three years ago I was finally fed up with watching all the guys at my college (and previously highschool) around me seemingly getting girls and hooking up while I was still floundering, hoping to "get lucky". And it truly was "getting lucky"... I have always been a decent looking guy, but with no self esteem, that doesn't get you far. Girls scared the **** out of me, and I relied on the few and far between drunk makeouts to keep me from feeling like total garbage. This girl came into my life. She was great and friendly and we "hit it off" really well. This was before I had really understood the concept of the friend zone. We started to hangout all of the time, and although I never kissed her or touched her, it felt great to be around an attractive girl and I figured we'd end up together. So one day I worked up the gall to tell her I liked her. And (big surprise!) she told me she only thought of me as a friend.

I felt like total sh!t. I was determined to make her mine. The whole situation angered me and frustrated me to no end. I decided I would do something about it. I started surfing the net and came upon PUA type stuff. I was enthralled and immediately began reading everything I could. I decided to get in shape. Not one of those passing phase "oh, i'm going to do some bicep curls" things. No. I was going to get f*cking jacked, just like all the d-bags that were snatching up the women around me while I had no affection from said women.

I would use my brains to conquer their brawn. As I began reading about both pickup and working out, I started to realize how both were COMPLETELY mental. Working out required a deep understanding of both diet and the science of exercise, and when implemented correctly, would be many times more efficient that those meatheads who just threw barbells around and ate cheeseburgers all day. Even the physical force of working out was dependent on the mental ability to say "no! I wont stop even though it fu<king hurts!" I used my deep anger, depression, and self-loathing and channeled it into carving myself completely into a new person so that I could win this girl.

I had previously been a "nice" guy. But no more. I started to allow myself to get mean. I didn't let people push me around anymore. I stopped apologizing to people and went after what I WANTED. Screw them. I was going to be an ******* and didn't care. I read page after page of PUA, Self-Improvement, Nutrition and Fitness book. But, above all, I implemented what I was learning. I completed a 90 day fitness program (one of those that ends in an X ). I felt on top of the world. And then I fu<king did it AGAIN. I continued to work on my skills with women. Rejection after rejection hardened me to not care. The girl I was chasing and her friends saw my new physique one day and commented "what happened to HIM??". But it wasn't just my body. I was changing who I was, for the better. I stopped apologizing and held my head higher, worked on my body language, tone of voice, physical presence, everything. Over the course of the last two years I have been committed to showing the world that I'm better, smarter, stronger, and more capable than everyone else. And I am a guy that women will love to be with.

After a while, do you know what happened? I started to lose interest in that girl. I made myself go after other women, which she saw and was impressed by. But I never looked back and was glad to have her as a great friend. And in turn, she introduced me to many of her attractive ladyfriends that I would get to know. And friends of their friends. And so on. This post is not meant for me to brag, and i'm not going to apologize if that's what it sounds like, because I've grown to love myself, and you will too.

Some of the greatest men in history were driven to create and achieve fantastic things because of a girl that dumped them, or broke their hearts, or didn't love them back. In the words of RATM: "ANGER IS A GIFT!". Get fu<king pissed at the world, other men, b!tches, society, AND yourself. I'm not saying to be an angry, depressed person. Just the opposite, channel those into something productive and then show the world your happy, positive side. But let it drive you. Oh yea, and watch that locker room scene with Al Pacino from Any Given Sunday.

Much love.

Great fvcking post here! Thats exactly what I did. Man I got pissed off, channeled all my emotion into my lifts, diet, and studies. And became 100x smarter, 100x bigger, and 100x cut up. You read then apply thats what it is.

 

[zenaddict]

Great fvcking post here! Thats exactly what I did. Man I got pissed off, channeled all my emotion into my lifts, diet, and studies. And became 100x smarter, 100x bigger, and 100x cut up. You read then apply thats what it is.

and how is your virginity, have you lost it yet? :flowers:

 

[btownbuck2012]

All I can say is that some of the greatest leaders this world has ever known have struggled with crippling, debilitating depression at some point in their lives, and it was over stuff much worse than women.

Cali4nialove,

You'll be OK, dude. Listen to the advice given to you in this thread. Being depressed isn't something to be ashamed of. The key is to use this time of despair to motivate yourself to change, be better, and see the world in a different light. Don't let depression beat you. Rise to the challenge.

 

[JohnChops]

and how is your virginity, have you lost it yet? :flowers:

With 12 different transsexual strippas, **** was only 3 gumballs!