Have I lowered my value

[romeo15]

Hello all the forum members. This is my first post although I have been reading around the forum for a while. Unfortunately in my first post I wont be contributing anything to the forum but just asking a question. Hopefully that will change in the future.

Anyway here is the situation: I study in the US and came back to my country for summer vacation and ended up hanging out with this girl whom I haven’t seen for 3-4 years from my high school. (I am 22 now) We really hit it off well .Back in high school I ve dated a girl who was much much less attractive then her. Honestly although my confidence was a mess back then, I could still do much much better. (I was told this back then many many times but didn’t listen) They weren’t best friends or anything and haven’t seen each other since but everybody in my school new each other good and hang out many times together in certain occasions.

The question is did I automatically lowered my value by going out with an ugly girl before. Can I still put my self in a position where I am the prize…

If I have lowered my value. Do you guys think I still have a chance?

 

[AlexTheGreat]

You haven't lowered your value. Most people probably don't remember what happened, so act like it was cool. You dated the girl for a reason right? Was she funny? Was she smart? Did she suck good?

If anyone asks you why you dated her, you answer "because she had a special something" and leave it at that. Time has passed, your tastes have changed as well. Don't sweat that, don't take it seriously, and don't let it affect you.

Simply put, act like it never happened. No one really cares anyway

 

[Interceptor]

If I have lowered my value. Do you guys think I still have a chance?

Wow.
Unfortunately for you, if this is your thinking, then you arent very high value anyway, to anyone....

Please stop thinking in terms of "do I have a chance?"
This is very very low value, Beta type thinking.

Number one, whenever you go into damage control like this, and obsess over micro managing your 'image', you are in DEEP trouble.

You cannot control other people's perceptions about you.
Let people have their thoughts about you, you stay on your path as a man, and honor and respect yourself even in the midst of opposition and suspicion on your character.
Never sell yourself short.
Never sell yourself out.

Bottom line, you place too much importance on some somewhat familiar,'hanging out' type of female , who may not even be remotely attracted to you, much less actually interested in you. And you really are reaching in thinking somehow there's a 'chance'. Buddy, if there were a chance, you would have already hooked up, or at least go major signals before.


Try to avoid the 'I want to make her my GF" approach, and the 'how can I get sex out of this?" with these random , only moderately involved females.
These are NOT good candidates for either situation to resolve.
If you havent really gotten a good spark of attraction from her from the get go, and you just want to be with her because she's the only female who gave you the minimum amount of attention, dont give in to those thoughts.

Really , really inform yourself on attraction, and how to interact with Women so that you are sexually attractive at all times, and you know how to present yourself as a worthy lover from the get go. Understand just HOW women relate to men sexually and romantically. And allow yourself to just BE that attractive man who doesnt have to resort to manipulation (portraying a false image for pvssy IS manipulation) or 'DHVs' ( it IS still supplicating because you assume she HAS to be impressed, because she is so out of your league, that you HAVE to rub it in her face of your VALUE) in order to have attractive, Quality women in his life.


And never act out of desperation.

I know for a lot of guys, they drool at the prospect of some 'hawt' chick giving them attention. But dont give in to that.

Have enough self respect and self control to hold out for the right women to come into your life. Not the moderately 'friendly' female who wants you to be her Orbiter.

Always maintain your Value, by not worrying about how you look in their eyes.
It's not for you to decide, or control.
Stop trying to act in a way that (falsely) impresses others. It is fake. Because if that's not the REAL you, it doesnt means sh*t. It's you trying to portray some persona, and thats total bullsh*t. Unacceptable behavior from mature, masculine, grown men.

You cannot control another person's perception filters.
Avoid trying to micro manage your self image.
You should be constantly improving , learning, and especially GROWING in life.
That is what you should be concerned with.
Build a great life.
A life that you can share with good quality women, who WANT to be with you. And that once you know how to activate your attractiveness, want to be with you for the right reasons, and want you to know about it....

 

[ItsOnNow]

superficiality of people is bull****

 

[ItsOnNow]

Interceptor is right, **** what people think

 

[ItsOnNow]

what is high value? how do you be high value? what about just being yourself? feminism ruined everything.

 

[I'm Charming]

what is high value? how do you be high value? what about just being yourself? feminism ruined everything.

The way I see it, Feminism didn't ruin anything, it just gave me a chance to get with more women than I would have done originally.

Being on SoSuave is like knowing all the rules of feminism, and knowing how best to break and bend them to your own advantage, if you can't capitalise on this knowledge with that many AFC's out there failing and women wanting real men, then you would never have had any women originally, quit moaning.

 

[jigga23]

You have lowered your value cause the way you are thinking. Dont try to change anything and dont show your ashamed. Think youre the sh1t, act like youre the sh1t, and be the sh1t. Dont try to change how you act for anyone. They dont like you for the way you are fvck them then. People always try to tell me to change my ways personality wise. I like the way I am and feel comfortable acting the way I do. I dont give a fvck how hot a girl is I will never wonder if im good enough or change.

 

[romeo15]

Thanks guys very intelligent stuff.

 

[darkme_legendary]

If I have lowered my value. Do you guys think I still have a chance?

Who the hell do you think keeps track of your value?
If you think you lowered your value, this is only in your head.
If you think you are not the prize then it's only in your head. etc.

 

[r0cky]

Don't worry about the perception they have of you and your past gf. Like Interceptor said, asking a question like this shows that your value is low and even if you had gone out with a beautiful girl back then your chances of succeeding with a girl are pretty low.