"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Have i lost my chance?

Praetorian

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There is this girl, who is the most beautiful girl i have ever met and i have wanted her for a long, long time. I no longer go to the same school as her but am still in contact with her and her best friend.

I could never bring myself to tell her how i feel or ask her out (i didnt know this site existed then, if i did it may have been very different) and so the months went by and i did nothing, other than think of her non-stop and have friendly conversations.

When i look back, she was always flirting with me, asking me questions which could lead to me asking her out. She would hug me occassionally and i was too nervous to really, register it as a possible sign (although i maybe wrong).

Her best friend had supposedly been in love with me (so she and many others said) but i wanted this girl.

Not only is she beautiful, shes funny, smart, kind.......

I dont know if she knew i liked her (a lot) but i feel i may have blown it. I was thinking of going to the school and meeting her, or somewhere else, but i'm not sure if she has a bf now, or if she even liked me at all (although the signs point to yes)

Any advice appreciated.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Smooth Player 056

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youve already been an AFC around her way too much. I would personally next her and find your self a girl that doesnt know you from a hole in the wall. If you really feel the need to contact this chick, do so once more ask ehr out. If it goes well fine, if not NEXT
 

Praetorian

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I just feel that i need to do something, just to see if there is a chance, otherwise i will regret it
 

TheNewGuy

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Oneitis.... diversify. Go chill with some other girls, she'll get jealous.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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frisco

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Only advice i can give is too not talk to her for a couple of months then when u think ur ready slowly start talking to her maybe her felling for u will readmerge if she did like u, not sure if this will work or not but thats all i got
 
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