Have I done the right thing.

[R1ch4rd]

This follows the girl from my other friend.
She initiated conversation on msn last night with alot of enthusasm, she started talking to me and then i remembered asking " i think you spend friday night we me for a wonderful evening miss (first name). Then she repleid i can't im'm meeting somebody.
At she then suggested to meet saturday, I said "no". I got really tough and serious with her, not mean or bad. I explained that I will do friday, she then came honest when i said why you meeting and she said meeting this other boy I know from school.
I just laid it done cooly and said "well you got to choose, I'm not being sloppy seconds, it's either I meet you first or instead of the other" He planned to meet her last week but she couldn't go out, so he rearrange it a week it advance.
She was basically saying I dunno I like you both, i said "well, you need to choose, lifes unfair but u decided to like both of us" She then came up with i'll decide tomorrow(what is now today)

She done a facebook thing for me not him and it seems she likes me more, the other kid has a comb over, isn't as funny, tall, manly, good looking or charming and that I feel she wouldnt cancel because she might feel bad. But he's interested in her and i was like I'm not taking the risk that it will go badly with them too on friday.

What do you Dj's think? Have I done right? I feel I have and that it and either way it was needed.

 

[Igetit!]

What do you Dj's think? Have I done right? I feel I have and that it and either way it was needed.

Did you do ok? Well yes....and no.

On the "yes" part,you did well by telling her you wanted to see her on Friday and sticking to your guns when she tried to reschedule the meeting.
That was good,REAL GOOD considering your a teenager. You let her know you wanted to see her on your time and schedule.

Very good job there.

Now for the "no" part...

You gave her an ultimatum,which rarely works,plus that little thing you said about life being unfair...that's true,but we're talking about attraction here. She doesn't want lessons on life,not from a guy she's attracted to.
You keep that kind of talk up,thenshe'll easily pick the other guy because whenever she's around him,she'll feel attraction,whereas when she's around you,she'll feel like your her parent giving her a lecture about life and responsibilities.

Another mistake you made was by you telling her to choose, you unintentionally put her in the power position. Now,she has the power,the authority to choose between two guys. It's like you and the other guy are now just sitting on the sidelines waiting for her to give you the green light,like both of you are like,"Pick me! Pick me!". And what did she do? She decided to put both of you on the backburner until the next day. Maybe she's made her mind up,maybe not. Who knows,maybe you and this other guy aren't the only two guys she's got on pause until she decides what she wants to do.

Nevertheless,like I said in my opinion,you did well. Not perfect,but hey,who is,right?

Good luck man.

 

[R1ch4rd]

Man, I talked to her tonight and she said i could come round hers friday, after i said she can spend that "wonderful night" with me, but she said boring when i said town, so she said come mine, and she meeting that other boy sat instead.
Whether shes trying to keep as happy, or she doesn't want me out of the equation im just glad to have the oppurtunity to strike her off her feet lol/
She seemed a bit cold on msn. So i said I'm going because your untalkative ,and the next time i speak to you it will be in person. She agreed and said "yeah do that be good babe "i'm going to call her tomorrow or friday to finalize plans.

I really got to proove her im worth it, this is gotta be it for me.
I not really nervous, I'm really going all in for it. This guy or guys shes meeting sat, have got to be seen as friends, or even if I can get some action this friday.
Any tips you don juans to share so that I am the guy(i was thinking getting hot, kissing maybe more of couse)

 

[R1ch4rd]

sorry for double post*

 

[playerone]

Make sure you talk to her with plenty of eye contact, don't bore her, and escalate with the kino. Don't rush anything to seem desperate and you'll be fine.

 

[R1ch4rd]

yeah man, Play it cool, charming, interesting. I've made a list of things, and I've been practicing. I may get sexual with her in person, she wanted to have it with me.

What did you mean by Rush things man?

The other guy is alright, but from his messages he's getting a bit of an AFC, and if i come along all cool, suave , charming and sexy. I don't know what their doing saturday, not sure if they going hers. But this is my chance to shine, and disappoint i wont. I said i call her, and i was thinking of doing a quick 3 minute phone convo 2moro morning time, act cool, charming and just get final details about where she lives exactly.

 

[kokane]

Dont ever forget the cardinal rule of seduction bro. 'Never overstay your welcome'. When the convo is at its peak. Tell her something like ' oh no its late i need to really get going.' Or even better end it with a kiss or more. But dont ever drag your convo too much. Leave her high and dry, so that she comes back for more.

 

[Natural Vibe]

1. Be unreactive.

What do you care if she goes out with an AFC instead of you?

Too bad, he'll have to handle her crap. Poor dork. We'll call him dorkie. Let dorkie creep the girl out with his AFC ways. Then you'll save the princess from the dragon.

There's a million girls out there more charming than her. Don't try to be suave, charming, funny, whatever. Those things will come by themselves, you're not an AFC are you?

Screw the phone limitation. Talk as long as you want, if you get bored close it. I once talked for about 45 minutes with a girl on the telephone for the first time, and could of kept on going for another 45 minutes. Did it make any difference? Not at all, we still dated and it went really well. Phone game is all about being funny and engaged, and vibing with the girl. So long as she's not bored, or you're not bored, it's all good.

It's good that you show her you have your own schedule and everything, but like the other guy said, don't be her daddy.

What do you care if she doesn't meet up with you? Haha, she'll be missing out. You can re-arange the date the next day if you're free. Don't shoot yourself in the foot by giving her an ultimatum during the same day as dork-guy.

2. Be fun. Don't try to play it cool, it comes out weird. Just have fun, she's your joy-toy.


This is what a natural would do.

This is what you will do.

Because you're the sh!t, hot pants. And disappoint you won't.

The cardinal rule of seduction is "Just be Yourself". But this is a secret rule, a rule AFC's try to replicate and fail. Only real men pull it off... perhaps you will. And if you crash, crash majestically.

May the force be with you.