Have I Done The Right Thing Here??

[soulforge]

I was banging my ex for a couple of months, after some consideration i decided to go ghost on her.. deleted her on every platform and without explanation vanished...



A little background..

Was together 3 years.. very toxic relationship.. 5 break ups.. she dumped me twice, but came around begging for me again. She treated me pretty bad throughout the relationship.

I went no contact for 2 years.. completely over her.. she found me online around 2 months ago, after she just broke up with some dude.

We talked and decided to do the FWB thing...

Gut instinct was telling me that she was using me, till either she finds another man or till her ex gets out of prison so she can get back with him..


Anyhow the sex was good... but i was with this woman for 3 years in the past, and i knew the more time i spend with her, my feelings for her would come back..

She dropped hints at wanting more than just FWB with me.. she even suggested that she is happy to share me with another woman...


So guys i went ghost on her for two reasons...


01. If i keep on banging her, and we was spending the night together, eventualy i will catch feelings for her, and this could spell trouble..

02. She could have been using me, till another dik came along..



Have i done the right thing by dropping her and vanashing????

 

[soulforge]

The opportunity to get back i to a relationship with her was there, but i chose to walk away.. this woman dumped me twice before..

Feels like a liability and i would have to watch my back, with her, not knowing whats around the corner

 

[dustmuffin]

As long as you can control your feelings bang her. If not then go no contact.

 

[pyros]

OP you're a pain in the ass with this issue.

 

[soulforge]

As long as you can control your feelings bang her. If not then go no contact.

I decided on no contact.. its just a matter of time, for the feelings to develop again. It wasn't just sex.. we was watching movies together, listening to music, eating together and she would sleep over the night..


Over time i am certain i would develop feelings for her... and this woman has dumped me twice before.. just feels to damn risky to continue banging her!!!

 

[Young OG]

I think you did the right thing. She was a ex for a reason. Nothing good will come out of banging an ex.

 

[NSX-R]

I would use the opportunity for a trio with her if she said that you can have a 2nd woman . xD

Going ghost was the best thing you've done,you are human and no matter how rock solid your heart can be, feelings are coming back if you don't take measures.

 

[Tenacity]

I decided on no contact.. its just a matter of time, for the feelings to develop again. It wasn't just sex.. we was watching movies together, listening to music, eating together and she would sleep over the night..


Over time i am certain i would develop feelings for her... and this woman has dumped me twice before.. just feels to damn risky to continue banging her!!!

Dude, I don't know. To me the two main benefits of today's market of women are SEX and Companionship, so you are getting both of them from her right now.

Yes, she dumped you and it hurt your feelings...but I'm kind of like the folks on Facebook who go by the mantra of, "Fvck Your Feelings".

I'm assuming you are a young guy? Maybe in your early 20's? Because the way you speak about having "feelings" for women is just like a young guy would speak.

You should ONLY have "feelings" for your career and other related PASSIONS in life. I would see women solely for what they are....a LEASE.

So if the Sex is good and her Companionship is good, then continue to Lease. The moment the drama starts, end the Lease. But stop putting your "feelings" into women, put your "feelings" into your career, passions, working out, etc.

I have a thread in the Mature Man section that talks about My Priority List. Women are so FAR down on my Priority list it's like they don't register. I still acquire and spin plates, but Women are just NOT the "be-all and end-all" like they used to be when I was in my early 20's. So maybe it comes with age, you grow out of putting too much STOCK into women.

 

[soulforge]

I would use the opportunity for a trio with her if she said that you can have a 2nd woman . xD

Going ghost was the best thing you've done,you are human and no matter how rock solid your heart can be, feelings are coming back if you don't take measures.

She did suggest that i could have another woman, and she would still want to see me or even be my girlfriend..

She is also happy to give me regular 3sums with other woman!!


But its the damn feelings that get in the way... me and her have history.

I currently have another plate too, so I don't know why i get feelings for this woman.

 

[soulforge]

Dude, I don't know. To me the two main benefits of today's market of women are SEX and Companionship, so you are getting both of them from her right now.

Yes, she dumped you and it hurt your feelings...but I'm kind of like the folks on Facebook who go by the mantra of, "Fvck Your Feelings".

I'm assuming you are a young guy? Maybe in your early 20's? Because the way you speak about having "feelings" for women is just like a young guy would speak.

You should ONLY have "feelings" for your career and other related PASSIONS in life. I would see women solely for what they are....a LEASE.

So if the Sex is good and her Companionship is good, then continue to Lease. The moment the drama starts, end the Lease. But stop putting your "feelings" into women, put your "feelings" into your career, passions, working out, etc.

I have a thread in the Mature Man section that talks about My Priority List. Women are so FAR down on my Priority list it's like they don't register. I still acquire and spin plates, but Women are just NOT the "be-all and end-all" like they used to be when I was in my early 20's. So maybe it comes with age, you grow out of putting too much STOCK into women.

I am 39 years old... and even tho i agree with you, its hard to keep the feelings out of the situation with an ex.. maybe that is where i am going wrong.