"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Have any of you put on bulk with < 4000cals a day?

speakeasy

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I've been reading some material by Rippetoe and he says that you have to eat 4000cals a day, maybe even 6000. Unfortunately, I have a stomach condition that causes early satiety. I usually cannot eat huge quantities of food. I cannot cram that many calories. Is lifting then a lost cause for me?

I am currently 5'9" and bounce around between 180-185lbs.

My goals aren't to get huge per se, but to put on some lean bulk and muscular definition. I definitely want to lower my bodyfat rate and to that end I've decided to cut out refined sugar from diet, no more soda, juices, sweets, etc. I'll still eat fruit though, usually strawberries, blueberries, bananas and grapes. Maybe a little sugar in my tea and that's about all. No more going through a liter of soda a day.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have very similar stats to you: 5'8" - 185ish, around 11-12% bf. I made the most headway with bulking at around 4000 calories.

Its a lot of food, but I'd say 3500-4000 is the minimum for most guys. Even more important is food selection. It should be 3500-4000 calories from non-processed, whole foods like steak, ckicken, veges, fish, oatmeal, yams, etc. This can be tough to do, however, its simply what it takes for most guys to get bigger w/o putting on a high amount of bodyfat. Getting that many calories from healthy food can be tough.

For your goals just focus on a lower calorie diet high in protein (aim for 250 g/day protein). As you said, make sure you get rid of 90% of the crap processed/refined food that was in your diet. You're obviously cheat meals, but you should eat clean 90% of the time.
 
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