Have any of you guys ever dated a chick that was to busy for a relationship?

[jnallen]

Have any of you guys ever dated a chick that was to busy for a relationship?

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Dude, sometimes I feel like that... this whole thing about having or getting someone.... sometimes I wish I had some time to myself. This morning I thought, 'Man, if I wasn't with this chic.... I'd be getting more of my business in place with the free time.' Sometimes I wish I was truly single.

 

[Shiftkey]

If a girl says this to you, it's often ******** for "I'm too busy for a relationship with you." If she's actually dating you she's just using you to get out of a slump or her interest level is just too low.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

No, but turnabout is fair play...lol

 

[jnallen]

She has a kid and works second (temporarily) there are a lot of demands from her family because her mom isn’t well. She is in the process of moving. So I guess she could be busy. I just don’t want her stringing me along. Not sure what to make of this.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Actually, with all that she's doing it sounds as if she's too busy for a relationship with anyone

(I am really loving these italics )

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Originally posted by jnallen
Have any of you guys ever dated a chick that was to busy for a relationship?

Yes and she was a great F-buddy!

M.A.C.

 

[jnallen]

Here is the situation. She called me at lunch. She says she cannot go out this weekend because she never got moved last weekend which is true. Her brother did not show. I can’t help her because her brother hates me. She has two kids and her ex will not help at all with them. She works second shift and has to get her kids off to school and the younger one is not in school. Her mom watches them. We have made a deal not to see each other right now in front of our kids until we are sure we can work it out because the breakups hurt them (my boundary) and she cannot get her ex to watch them. She is going for an interview today to try to get on first shift.
I told her that I do not want the run around anymore and I feel that is what you are doing. She said I promise I am not it is just crazy right now. Just let me get things under control and we will go out and start on us. Her mom and her got into it the other day because her mom never has liked any of her bf’s because she is selfish and wants my ex all to herself. I told her that want to see her in the next week sometime and she said call me and I will try to get my ex to take the kids after work one night. She still has to get her phone and every thing hooked up in her new place. Her and her brother got into it because he didn’t show up. What do you guys/gals think? These are all ligitmate reasons and I know for a fact that all of this is going on.

 

[jnallen]

Re: Re: Have any of you guys ever dated a chick that was to busy for a relationship?

Originally posted by Matt ala Casanova
Yes and she was a great F-buddy!

M.A.C.

Never know. If I found out though I tell her to never call me again. Don't think this is the case with this one but you never know.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

You dating anyone else?

If not, why not?

Don't be shy, or hang around: you've talked straight to her.

People can make time for anything they really want, no matter how busy they are. Like when people tell me they're too busy to workout? I laugh, because you can bet your ass they find the time go watch tv on the weekend, or some other lameass thing.

She needs to re-prioritise you up her scale, and you can do that by proving you're not desperate for her. You already told her you're not putting up with her messing you around.

So now, stop putting up with her messing you around: go pick up some other women. Don't tell her, but don't hide it either.

Maybe she'll realise how much she's missing out on and have the cop-on to reprioritise you.

good luck!
Osc.

 

[jnallen]

I told her I will not tolerate her stringing me out but then did a stupid AFC mistake in calling back after I hung up on her to tell her that I want to she you next week after work sometime. Let her know I am not going to wait forever but tried to setup another date without getting a definate and screwed myself I think. I should have just hung up letting her know I don't give a sh*t and it would have had better results. I think I screwed up.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Take note of replies on this thread:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?threadid=28127

See? Quite waiting.

btw yes, I did notice you'd posted there

Osc.

 

[jnallen]

Small detail I left out. Actually big. We had a long term relationship a few years back. this may make a difference.

 

[jnallen]

Doc says the key to women is patience. Should I just date others and be patient with this situation or should I next her.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Don't next her, just put her on the backburner for a month or so, let other women fill the gap. Don't think the advice here changes that much when added the fact that you were in LTR beforehand.

 

[jnallen]

She is great in bed. Maybe I will just not call her for awhile. Although she always says call me and I will XXX. Not sure whether to call or be a challenge on this one. She us in her 30s they are different than the 20 yr olds. What do you think?

 

[Oscar Wilde]

The more mature, the less they like games. Being somewhat of a challenge will probably still be necessary, but don't be too strong.

I'm still of the opinion that you've told her straight you're interested, and not to mess you around, therefore you should not hang around ad infinitum waiting (we guys tend to wait around for women more than we should - we rationalise it).

So decide yourself - how long do you want to hang around waiting? 2 weeks? A month? 3 months? months? Think about it, this is the important bit. Do you think that after that time she will definitely be on for another LTR with you? What are the odds? Really, what % you giving on this. Think about it logically.

Don't show her that she has the power and can control you by giving her infinite time to wait. You don't have to be an insensitive jerk and give her an ultimatum, but respect yourself and draw your own lines.

Osc.

 

[jnallen]

Yes I rationalize way to much about it. Don’t know why. I will give her a little more time I guess I just am suspicious of her intentions. You can never listen to what she says and get a straight answer. It’s like everything she says is a damn riddle or something.

 

[gr8one]

Hmmmmm...

I'd keep her on the back burner for a while...let her stew in her own juices, etc....

Don't be a SUCKA by "waiting" for her to come around. y'know?

Find another honey with HIGH IL!

 

[jnallen]

Was hoping to get this one back to HI IL. Maybe she is really busy. If you look at what I posted above it is very possible. She always tells me if you call me I will. Its stupid