"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Have any of you guys ever been used by a girl to get at a friend of yours?

Incognito72

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I'm trying to figure out this chick's deal. I think she's using me to get at a friend of mine. Both of us have slept with her (him first), and he's sure she wants to date him (but he's seeing someone that he's not about to drop). I want to get another crack at her so when she added me to fb I accepted. Have her number too, an while shes calling me I think it's just to make my buddy jealous. For instance, last night she called me and stayed on the phone for over a half hour. She make a joke that she should come over and **** me, spend the night then sneak into my buddy's room in the morning and scare him. I'm not sure what's she's planning with this ****. I want to **** her again, my buddy doesn't care and even supports it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This has happened to me. Last year at school, my friend and I were in a class with a HB 7.5. My friend is in a LTR, so he had no intention. Meanwhile, HB 7.5 and I clicked and I asked her out. She said yes and all was good. IMO, the date went well. She seemed to be having fun and I controlled the frame throughout. She "definitely" wanted to go on another date.

Within the next couple of days, it was easy to see that we were "done." She would barely talk and started acting funny. In class the next week, my friend was going on and on about some places he had been to near campus lately and that he wanted to check them out again. Out of nowhere, HB 7.5 eagerly wants to go. The next class, he and I go to a nearby Panera Bread after class. She overheard him mention the place and immediately wanted to go too since she can hang out. She even tried playing the jealousy card on him by saying she was kinda seeing someone. It was too easy to find the holes in that fabricated story.

Her attempts were futile. My friend obviously stuck with his gf, I haven't spoken with this girl since and have no idea where she is now.

My advice for you is to look into other available options. If this one works out, it's a great bonus. You can try to ask this girl out or try and get with her again, but don't become too invested in it.
 

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Girls do that stuff all the time. They think they're being clever. But in reality the dude she's boning is probably just happy to get some sex. And the guy she's trying to make jealous doesn't give a f**k anyway.

It's always the same damn thing.
 

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I'm always looking into other available options. Currently I'm planting seeds with several girls, some of which are looking promising (I'll probably try for a meet up with these girls in the next week).

The only reason I even posted this was to see if anyone's been in a similar situation. This girl's behavior is baffling, especially when she's calling and texting me multiple times a day but clearly likes my buddy.
 

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Incognito72 said:
The only reason I even posted this was to see if anyone's been in a similar situation. This girl's behavior is baffling, especially when she's calling and texting me multiple times a day but clearly likes my buddy.


she's trying to turn you into her chick friend. Ignore half of that **** if not more. Have the mindset of banging her while communicating as little as possible.

Think of 2 girls in a bar, one a 10 one only a 7. Some guys would befriend the 7 to talk to the 10.

Im sorry, and I don't mean to insinuate you're a 7 or your friend is better looking. But that's whats happening here. I know you banged her....but don't start having long chats w/ her over text etc. Or on the phone. Be short, quick, and if the text is useless don't answer.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girls do this a lot. They always have options and you need to gain more options OP. Pump and dump. Or you'll be her emotional tampon. Be the guy that women want to f**k, not marry or be the chick friend. That is a bunch of bullsh*t and is also for suckers. Oneitis seems to be the cause of this. That's why many of the experts say spin more plates.

Case closed. Keep searching.
 

Incognito72

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Lol, the search never stops. But why not continue to chill with a chick if u like her and your gaming others? I think the whole pump and dump every girl mindset is retarded.

EDIT: actually scratch that, I'm cutting this chick off
 
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