"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Have any of you created your own Action Dates?

AAAgent

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Just as the title says. What are some of your action dates guys?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Things I've done...

Basketball, frisby, build snowman (if its snowing), simple walk in the park, paintball, fishing, target shooting, bowling, pool, swiming, hot tub, throwing eggs at cars off a building, going to a party, barbeque.. those are the main ones.
 

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ACTION DATES-now these types of dates are ideal. You are not just there to meet her, you are doing something together (playing pool, mini-golfing, air hockey, etc) The activity acts as a safety net AKA Buffer Zone.. You are not seated directly across from them, the tension tends to be a little lighter as the focus is presumed on the activity and not directly on them. Touching is natural , kino is possible as you can show them how to stand, hold the stick, position them, high five for a great shot, etc. Bounce potential is attainable. A good tip would be to play for favorites……you could start off with playing for a dollar, then move up to hugs ‘n’ kisses….if you are really bold and she is adventurous increase the bets. Loser has to give the winner a rock star kiss, back massage, oral, etc.

Your goal is to associate having a good time with you. When you are seated across from one another in a public place like a coffeehouse it can be stressful, adversarial, there is very little personal space. It’s a lot easier to bounce, kino, redirect focus on the Buffer zone on action dates.
 

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Pool is the best...then after a few drinks (I can't play for **** without a buzz) everything comes so much easier. Plus it's not really putting yourself out there if you invite a chick to come shoot some pool with you, and a lot of girls aren't that good so you can always teach them something.
 

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lets see, i've done ice skating, games like taboo, and arcades.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Go to a place like Boomers or Mulligan (or whatever its called where you live) that have a whole bunch of stuff like go-karts, miniature golf, batting cages, arcade, etc. With those options you can kinda feel out what she likes to do. I found miniature golf to be really good because a lot of girls suck at it and you can go behind them and teach them which can set up a lot of sexual kino.
 
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