Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Let me elaborate a little more on what exactly my mentor is charging me $100 per month for.Stud said:While Vice is right about having a mentor on your side, you should never pay for one. All your mentor is concerned about is the cash and if you think otherwise, ask yourself, if I stopped paying this man his $100 / month (paltry sum for a mentor worth his salt), would he continue to help me research deals or whatever else he does with you? The answer is more than likely no, which tells you where his true intentions lie.
Why couldn't he buy the house with cash? Don't listen to stooges being filled up with guru's garbage. The real estate community is filled with them, very similar to the PUA community. There is no right or wrong answer, just know that where there is a will there is a way, especially when it comes to creative real estate financing.
elite7, you're obviously very inexperienced in real estate. I would suggest reading books and finding somebody who has done well in real estate and pick their brain. There will be plenty of foreclosures on the market for years to come.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.