Have a problem today, a sweet girl 14 years younger than me.

[Poonani Maker]

I'm 33. She doesn't want to leave but her girlfriend does, so she goes along with the program. I ignored the hot blond gf, she got offended that I didn't hit on her, they leave. I think she caught me looking at her pimple on her nose. I was really scrutinizing the blond every guy thought was so hot. I'd rather be with/talk to the 20 year old brunette, because I've known her longer and know she's attracted already, and is a cute little nerd, clumsy just like my ex-oneitis was.

Do you think that I'm doomed if her friends say sh1t about me, like I know they will? I need desperately to get this cutie isolated, her tall hot blond friend be damned.

These girls are two weeks back from college. You Know they're being hit on left and right in college by much younger dudes. They're religious so that shield has kept them pure thusfar to my knowledge.

They probably wonder why I'm not married yet, something wrong with me, etc. How do I turn this frame around?

My problem has always been oneitis-related. I find the girl I think I Want and I go for her. This scares her, then I'm back square one, no girl and appearing needy when I'm not.

I'm Very Happy with my life minus girls, but do wish to obtain the One for marriage and kids one day. I love everything I do outside of work that doesn't include girls. The activities I do makes me happy. If a girl is to be in my life, then she must be one I deem suitable for me, not the other way around.

The brunette is sooo young and innocent, yet mature, and I think that I'm beginning to fall for her. What should I do next week if I see her? She loves looking at me, from far and near, I catch her looking at me.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Ok, I saw her again today as well as last week. EVERY time I catch her looking at me while pretending to socialize with her college friend/roomie. The blonde is Gone. I never see her anymore.

This 20 yr old brunette though, is definitely interested, always hanging around. She doesn't go out to my knowledge, just studies, studies, studies. She's definitely got a knack for mathematics, engineering etc.

I think I'm falling for her, but I won't ACT on it, Yet.

I admire this one, because she's always liked me. I remember meeting her when she first moved here almost 3 years ago, and me being like the first dude to ever show interest in her here way back then. I know personal stuff about her that many guys here today don't know.

I think she's sentimental. She gossips about other dudes which ain't cool, but she's just young. She reminds me of my ex oneitis just more subdued, and without-a-doubt more educated/intelligent. I remember how she looked at 18 yrs old, and I'd rather see her That way than how she looks today. She looks more "refined" today. I'd prefer her paleish innocent high-school frizzly girl-hair from before. She's still the same person though, and if we were to get serious, I'd try to mold her back to the way she was. I don't want her becoming adult.

I also think about if we were to get hitched, how I'd probably die well before she dies, leaving her life insurance, yes, but no husband to care for and take care of her. This is what I think she might think in her mind. Maybe it never crosses her mind.

 

[Quiksilver]

I think she's sentimental. She gossips about other dudes which ain't cool, but she's just young. She reminds me of my ex oneitis just more subdued, and without-a-doubt more educated/intelligent. I remember how she looked at 18 yrs old, and I'd rather see her That way than how she looks today. She looks more "refined" today. I'd prefer her paleish innocent high-school frizzly girl-hair from before. She's still the same person though, and if we were to get serious, I'd try to mold her back to the way she was. I don't want her becoming adult.

I also think about if we were to get hitched, how I'd probably die well before she dies, leaving her life insurance, yes, but no husband to care for and take care of her. This is what I think she might think in her mind. Maybe it never crosses her mind.

You're getting a little ahead of yourself... Take it one step at a time.

 

[old married dude]

You're getting a little ahead of yourself... Take it one step at a time.

That's good advice there.

Gratz to you for gaining the interest of a 20-yr. old! At that age they tend to think us guys in our mid-30's are pooping in our depends and are in need of viagra when it comes to sexytime.:crackup:

Don't sweat the age issue, if anything show her that an older man can be more mature, sophisticated, confident, and knows exactly what he wants in his life.

It sounds as if you're being a wee bit timid with this girl, close the deal & get together with her sometime soon or else your window of opportunity could close.

 

[sodbuster]

Go for it already-before she loses interest. They have a short attention span ahd will move on fairly quickly

 

[zekko]

Go for it already-before she loses interest. They have a short attention span ahd will move on fairly quickly

I agree with this wholeheartedly. Girls are fickle and will not hold their interest for you forever. You have just so long to prove you are a man and do something. Get her number and set up something to do together already, who cares about her blond friend? The worst that can happen is she'll turn you down. But you have to do something now, the clock is ticking.

I also agree Quiksilver about you getting ahead of yourself. You haven't even been out with this girl but you already have a full fantasy life with her. That can't work in your favor. Slow down and let reality unfold.

By the way, the part about not wanting her to become an adult is a little creepy.