"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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have a new girlfriend but not sure what to do about another girl

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some of you might remember me posting about an older woman who i sometimes (not much anymore) play ps3 together. always calling each other babe or hun and saying shes coming to visit me and how she cant wait to kiss me and be with me etc. (apparently shes a virgin and she wants me to be her teacher :p) shes also vietnamese by the way.

anyway, i kinda stopped sh1tting around with her cause i was wasting my time and dreaming about how i would be with her and all that crap. i have since met another awesome chick who is 23 and im 27 soon. anyway i finally got over that other woman until i checked my mail and seen a big package for me by the door. it was from her... sent from the other side of the world. i was expecting a letter cause she wanted to mail me often. but i got a bit surprised with this one. now i know she's loaded with money cause i seen her house pics and shes somewhat of a scientist or something. works in a lab. the postal itself was $22.80 - and inside it has a towel, shirt, 120 gb hard drive, a dvd and a cd. i havent opened it yet but i will soon. i also know theres a big love letter waiting inside. this would of cost her a fair bit and we havent even met before. lately she's also been messaging me on facebook and ps3 because i havent been on in a while. saying shes wondering where ive been and that she misses me.

so what should i do about this one guys? she says shes coming end of the year to see me and i know if the circumstances were right she would be a great woman to be with but im not gonna think about it because she still lives in a different country AND i have a girlfriend which she doesnt know about. im thinking just keep it cool and thank her for the gift and meet her when she comes to visit. see how it goes.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Be careful Lonewolf. I have had a Vietnamese girlfriend. They are not all poor here (80% are I think) and not necessarily out to rip you off! Some make it in HCMC (Saigon) and get jobs with a western salary with international companies. Vietnamese women tend to be virgins and make good wives, but that is what she will want, marriage! And to get to the states is not easy for her, marriage may help the visa process!

Many Vietnamese women want to marry a foreigner.. it's not necessarily about the money its about the way the western guys mostly treat them.. Vietnamese men after marriage don't tend to treat them so well. Also a baby from a Vietnamese/Western couple is 'very beauty' as they put it! Vietnamese women do have an endearing charm about them.

Cultural differences when dating is that the woman expects everything to be paid for all the time (until married when the woman often controls the money). They lose face if they end up paying instead of the man when they are not married. Also when dating they will never say thankyou, as in their minds saying thankyou is something you do to a stranger not someone close. Having said all this your lady may not be as traditional as this. And they may also give up their virginity before marriage despite saying otherwise ;)
 
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i should of probably mentioned, she was born in vietnam but has lived in america her whole life. texas to be exact. so she's not like most asians and has that texas accent even. i'm the one who lives in another country lol.
 
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Bro, Milk the cow and if your new gf doesn't work out you got a back up plan. I don't see the problem my friend. Carpe Diem!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No, It's called looking out for himself.
 
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I'd be a little creeped out if I got a package in the mail from someone I barely knew and hadn't even met...

Put it in perspective:
What a woman think if she received and expensive package in the mail from a guy she barely knew and hadn't even met?
She'd either be creeped out, or continue to take advantage of him and not put out when or if they meet.
 
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808 said:
I'd be a little creeped out if I got a package in the mail from someone I barely knew and hadn't even met...

Put it in perspective:
What a woman think if she received and expensive package in the mail from a guy she barely knew and hadn't even met?
She'd either be creeped out, or continue to take advantage of him and not put out when or if they meet.
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I think the type of guy who'd spend months talking to a woman he met playing Playstation 3 is the only kind of person who WOULDN'T be creeped out by this.
 
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