Die Hard
Master Don Juan
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I've seen this one before, and it did seem staged (bad actress), did she not see the car before he started talking to her? Anyways, I didn't know that was the same guy. I remember his 'put your number in my phone' bit, which was actually pretty good.Die Hard said:I liked this one as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0iyeUcFKRv4
Yeah, the guy totally provoked it. As you noted, she reacted poorly, but that seems to be what he was counting on. What was she doing that needed protesting against? Wearing a short pair of jorts?Peaks&Valleys said:Nothing wrong with putting a woman in her place, when she deserves it. However, that girl was minding her own business, next thing you know some guy says: Nice ass *creepy voice*, then she turns around, and he's recording it. He instigated himself into her life. Was she doing anything wrong before he got involved?