"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Have a hb8 nibble on POF...do not want her to jump off the hook..how to respond?

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Yes, even I could use a little of your help to get the ball rolling in meeting this chick asap..to move from messages to in person..

I messaged her out of the blue (she hadn't viewed my profile, she wasn't even a "My Matches" result, seems really sexual uninhibited, fine as fvck, long and slender body and pony tail brunette, her mouth is a little fvcky or crooked but so what..26 yrs old).

My initial msg:
"You seem very uninhibited. I am too. What are you looking for?"

Her response:
"Perhaps, I am looking for you."

How do I take control here??

I've thought about writing back:

"Well, you know I'm looking AT you..." and maybe add, "I think you may be my type.."
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Poonani Maker said:
Her response:
"Perhaps, I am looking for you."

My response:

Perhaps.

And you just might find out...if you play your cards right, of course. ;)

And then bla bla bla whatever you want to ask her or tell her
 

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The Bad Ass Canadian said:
My response:

Perhaps.

And you just might find out...if you play your cards right, of course. ;)

And then bla bla bla whatever you want to ask her or tell her
Thanks man. I used yours verbatim and then put:

"I live in [my town], closer to [the town south of me and closer to her]. Is that a problem?
 

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With those emails you need to be able to recognize when "it's on". Her response was a classic "it's on" reply, so all you have to do is throw it right back with a reply like I gave and she knows you're speaking her language.

I'm sure there's a dozen responses you coulda given. That was just my first gut instinct response I'd use.
 

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Her response:
"Perhaps, I am looking for you."
"Give me your name and number and maybe I'll let you find me next week."
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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That was just my first gut instinct response I'd use.
It didn't werk, bro, but I blame it on your not being able to see her profile. She never responded. I didn't check to see if she'd read or deleted it, I never check.

However, since her, I've already msg'd multiple others all on whims, just whatever comes to my mind to say. I get about a 60% response rate, but what I'm finding is that, if you INSULT them in your first msg (for instance, one was a softball coach though actually good-looking, and msg'd "Is it true what they say about softball coaches and girls basketball coaches that they're all lesbos??" too my surprise she didn't get angry but validated herself to me with, "Well, if I was, would I be on here??" and I responded with "You just passed my test...maybe I can take you seriously now...") and too my surprise, my response rate goes up to 80-90% when I insult, or mind-fvck one of them. It's just the cold-hard facts, the cold-hard truth, the only way to diversify your msg from the other swinging d!cks and get responses is to mind-fvck em.
 

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Here's another excerpt..I call one (24 yr old decent-looking short girl) on using a picture of her standing next to her fat friend to make herself look better. She angrily responds, "what the **** is that supposed to mean?" to which I respond, "Typical.." and she responds, "ha. that is my best friend we roomed together in college. dont judge my character when you dont even f u c k i n g know me." and I respond, "I know you. I've been around.."
 

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Here's another one I just fvcked with...she prides herself because of her blue eyes in the title and in her description (average body), and so I introduce myself with This msg: "obvious fake blue contacts.."
 

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Then if she has a dog in most of her photos I'll say, "Your dog looks like he needs a treat..if I ran into him, I'd give him one."
 

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Whenever I did the online thing I would always throw in a bit of teasing/negs.

They are pretty powerful when done right. I would have negged her a bit, after the initial response line I gave you. Nothing too bad... just a little "dangling carrot" that she'd need to respond and validate herself.

And yeah, it definitely is profile specific. Hard to tell. I always read their profiles multiple times and look at the pictures to gather clues s to what sort of girl I'm dealing with.

You often really have to read between the lines and assume that 90% of what she wrote is B.S.

And of course, they won't always respond, regardless of what you say/do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Here's my most recent initial msg after one viewing my profile: "Do you smell bad?..just curious.." I wrote that because all 3 of her pictures (another one with an unflattering shot of her girlfriend to make her look better) hit me as her being one of those chicks with a smelly tw4t - I just sense it in her pictures...she's not half-bad looking either and average body, tall, blue-eyed "Christian" (though partying/drinking in photos) brunette.

Also the one I'd asked about in the OP is now back talking with me again after I messaged, "Did I say something wrong??" she responded with, "You did not say anything wrong haha
[My town] is kind of far though:(

Then I msg her back how far I can tolerate seeing her, and she msg back where she lives [downtown of million plus city 60 miles away], I msg back how bad the parking is there :( but I recount to her at least 2 fantastic experiences last fall at such and such specific locations not "leaving until 1:30 am" - It was actually 2 different girls I'd fvcked but I didn't tell her that, just that I had a good time at 15th west of the stadium (baseball football I forget).

Then another girl is cute but short only been here 6 months still trying to adjust, she's from LA, and I mention having bad luck with LA girls and don't want nothing to do with them anymore, but that all other California girls are fine, and then she starts qualifying herself saying that she's really from San Fransisco, then in NY for 9 yrs dad's investment banker, then moved back, "only went to college in la" etc etc.

She's really into me I can tell. I will try to meet her. I told her what I do. Normally I won't tell a woman my job, but she seems very unsure of herself, so I reveal myself in allotment with how much she reveals about herself, and she's told me details, like everything she does pertaining to her job in organic medicine research writing etc. She's dark complected, cute, plays tennis, 5'4." I'd fvck her.
 

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one thing i just realized is easy to make fun of , is girls saying they like all kinds of music , every single girl does it online "i love music all kinds"
 

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cablecow15 said:
one thing i just realized is easy to make fun of , is girls saying they like all kinds of music , every single girl does it online "i love music all kinds"

guess that includes Gregorian Chants and Justin Beiber?
 
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