Haunted by the thoughts of my ex getting intimate with her current bf

[Fela Kuti]

Hi guys,

So this girl I was seeing for 3 months decided to stop seeing me and a month or two later got back together with her ex. I was pretty bummed by the news but I've managed to live with that fact, until a few days ago when I missed her so much (one of those days) and I stupidly browsed her photos on Facebook and saw their photos together. Since then sometimes I get these thoughts of her getting intimate (if you know what I mean, *nudge nudge wink wink*) with her boyfriend. It bothers me a lot, it makes my heart burns. I know I have to get occupied with something but of course I can't keep myself occupied for 24 hours a day. I think I need you guys' biting words. Thanks.

 

[Duracell_Bunny]

You were probably just a rebound. My opinion is you are just missing the sex more than her otherwise you would have that heart burning feeling when looking at her photos without her ex on there.

Either way you shouldn't be looking at her FB account anyway. Block her, delete her number and replace it with a new prospect.

I'm sure you won't be feeling like this when the next pair of breasts are in your face.

 

[Fela Kuti]

You were probably just a rebound. My opinion is you are just missing the sex more than her otherwise you would have that heart burning feeling when looking at her photos without her ex on there.

Either way you shouldn't be looking at her FB account anyway. Block her, delete her number and replace it with a new prospect.

I'm sure you won't be feeling like this when the next pair of breasts are in your face.

well, that burning feeling is actually jealousy. when I look at her photos what I feel is melancholia.

 

[Jariel]

Yeah, if you had feelings for her then it's sure to be painful, gutwrenching even, to think of her with another man. Unfortunately there's not a lot you can do. Even if you hook up with 10 other women, it's no substitute for that one you really care about.

It's going to take time to get over this, but you can help yourself by avoiding her photos or indulging any of this pain or jealousy. Whenever the thought comes into your mind, literally tell yourself to think about something else.

 

[Fela Kuti]

yeah, I've been meaning to never see her profiles again but usually every few weeks, there comes a moment when I really miss her and there's some uncontrollable force that moves my hand to click her profiles.

 

[SamTheHobit]

You will get over it. It will take a while but you will. It took me a whole fvcking year to get over my ex. I've actully recently met a girl way better then her after thinking she was the only girl for me. Endure the pain because even with endless things to do it will still be there. But one things for sure it won't last very long.

 

[Fela Kuti]

is it pathetic though, to still feel this way 3,5 months after the breakup? considering we weren't even exclusive and the "relationship" only lasted 3 months. but I admit I fell hard for her, I got too attached. I didn't protect my heart.

 

[HalfAddict]

^ then what the **** is stopping you... just a broad.. she ****s and she probably is not nearly as awesome irl as she is in your head. **** that ho.

 

[Desdinova]

Since then sometimes I get these thoughts of her getting intimate (if you know what I mean, *nudge nudge wink wink*) with her boyfriend.

Not only does he get to sleep with her, he gets the insecurity of knowing that she could ditch his ass AGAIN anytime. This woman did you a favor by giving you the freedom to find a woman who doesn't swing back and forth between branches.

 

[Serg897]

Not only does he get to sleep with her, he gets the insecurity of knowing that she could ditch his ass AGAIN anytime. This woman did you a favor by giving you the freedom to find a woman who doesn't swing back and forth between branches.

THIS

Delete her facebook and BLOCK her, so her profile doesnt even turn up in searches. I know its rough, but you must begin process of moving on and being able to check her facebook only detracts from that goal. We've all been through this man - you will be okay.

 

[Fela Kuti]

Actually I've removed her facebook since last month and I saw the photos from a mutual friend's album. But anyway, I just typed her usernames (facebook, twitter and whatnot) on my router's blocked keywords. I hope something good will come out of it :yes:

 

[st_99]

IMO, haunting thoughts of your ex getting it on with her current is just a symptom of the AFC mindset. Its a culmination of years of thinking the wrong way about women.

Some might say its just a natural human reaction of jealousy but I don't think it has to be that way. You need to reframe the
way you think about things.