"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Hatred towards ex girlfriends and lovers
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
TheEndOfDays
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Whoa.
1) You're still mad because you still care. You either need to get over it, or just face the fact that you'll be angry forever. If you're an angry person, you'll never be a DJ. It's hard to romance with one hand, while you hate with the other.
2) "I hate women." Well, that's why you "always meet b******". You find the ones with zero self esteem because that's exactly what you look for--women who hate themselves as much as you hate them yourself.
3) You sound like you're having self esteem issues as well. If you want to recover, you need to fix yourself first. Not only your attitude, but your financial situation as well. The more helpless you feel, the more helpless you'll appear.
You're "average" because of the results you generate.
You've never had a "healthy relationship" with anyone because you're unhealthy yourself. Whether the relationship is temporary or long term, it can still be healthy. As long as "the game" is played fair between two willing, healthy participants, anything can be healthy. 1 hour. 1 year. 1 lifetime.
If I could suggest anything to you...
Get your life in order. Great place to start is getting a stable job to establish a solid foundation for your life. Until you have a stable job, dont even worry about women.
Chaos and disorder breeds chaos and disorder.
1) You're still mad because you still care. You either need to get over it, or just face the fact that you'll be angry forever. If you're an angry person, you'll never be a DJ. It's hard to romance with one hand, while you hate with the other.
2) "I hate women." Well, that's why you "always meet b******". You find the ones with zero self esteem because that's exactly what you look for--women who hate themselves as much as you hate them yourself.
3) You sound like you're having self esteem issues as well. If you want to recover, you need to fix yourself first. Not only your attitude, but your financial situation as well. The more helpless you feel, the more helpless you'll appear.
There is no such thing as luck. Luck is an excuse for those who cant generate results themselves. "Lucky" people are just people who take advantage of their opportunities to the fullest. By the sounds of your post, you're not taking advantage of too many opportunities.Why am I so unlucky? Why am I AFC? Why have i never formed a healthy positive relationship with a girl? Why do I always meet the b*tches?
You're "average" because of the results you generate.
You've never had a "healthy relationship" with anyone because you're unhealthy yourself. Whether the relationship is temporary or long term, it can still be healthy. As long as "the game" is played fair between two willing, healthy participants, anything can be healthy. 1 hour. 1 year. 1 lifetime.
If I could suggest anything to you...
Get your life in order. Great place to start is getting a stable job to establish a solid foundation for your life. Until you have a stable job, dont even worry about women.
Chaos and disorder breeds chaos and disorder.
TheEndOfDays said:Whoa.
1) You're still mad because you still care. You either need to get over it, or just face the fact that you'll be angry forever. If you're an angry person, you'll never be a DJ. It's hard to romance with one hand, while you hate with the other.
2) "I hate women." Well, that's why you "always meet b******". You find the ones with zero self esteem because that's exactly what you look for--women who hate themselves as much as you hate them yourself.
3) You sound like you're having self esteem issues as well. If you want to recover, you need to fix yourself first. Not only your attitude, but your financial situation as well. The more helpless you feel, the more helpless you'll appear.
There is no such thing as luck. Luck is an excuse for those who cant generate results themselves. "Lucky" people are just people who take advantage of their opportunities to the fullest. By the sounds of your post, you're not taking advantage of too many opportunities.
You're "average" because of the results you generate.
You've never had a "healthy relationship" with anyone because you're unhealthy yourself. Whether the relationship is temporary or long term, it can still be healthy. As long as "the game" is played fair between two willing, healthy participants, anything can be healthy. 1 hour. 1 year. 1 lifetime.
If I could suggest anything to you...
Get your life in order. Great place to start is getting a stable job to establish a solid foundation for your life. Until you have a stable job, dont even worry about women.
Chaos and disorder breeds chaos and disorder.
Really good advice there.
Stay at it, don't be so bitter. This is a bunch of crap if you ask me. YOU are responsible for EVERYTHING in your life. Don't blame women. Women aren't the problem. Your perception of them is the problem. They can lie. They can cheat. They can be cruel. But that's not their fault. Its your fault for not realizing that you shouldn't trust WOMEN.
I don't buy the "expect women to have honor and integrity" crap. Those are masculine traits in my eyes. They have absolutely no value to women.
I've always said, if you leave a dog in a room with a steak, it will eat the steak. Its a dog. Dog's eat steak no matter what. Don't be mad at a dog for being a dog. Don't be mad at a woman for being a woman. And women do what they think is best for them at all times regardless of who they leave in their wake. That is a fact.
Your life is YOUR LIFE. You should be happy with or without a woman or else you will never be happy.
Figure out why it is that you aren't happy and you aren't enjoying YOUR life. You can blame the finances, you can blame the women, you can blame anything you want. But until you accept that its YOU, you'll never improve and more importantly, will never be happy.
Most likely you are stuck in the romanticized version of how life was "supposed to be". Since women haven't fit into that romanticized version of what perfect life, white picket fence, great wife, happy movie scene lifestyle that you thought you were entitled to, you blame them for it.
It's a tough realization to make. But it sounds like you date, f close girls so what's the issue here? One of the best things in getting over an ex is realizing that she lost a great guy and it really was her loss to do so. Sounds like you don't believe that about yourself truly and that's a self-esteem issue.
All in all, this is a self-esteem issue.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You'll be good. Just be honest with yourself and start today to fix your flaws. Don't worry about women right now. Write out every flaw you have about yourself completely and honestly in a word doc and then fix each one, one by one.
Then you'll never have this problem again. Your exes will simply be people you loved but have to accept that when you dated them, YOU WERE NOT GOOD ENOUGH. But that's alright, because there are new beginnings. Your job is to take responsibility for fixing your flaws. You have to be honest and take the pain of why those relationships went wrong so that you don't do it again. And start really digging deep. It's about time you saw yourself in the mirror and said I'm done living like this. Take control of your life. No excuses. Just start now and don't look back.
It's never too late. Better late than never.
Then you'll never have this problem again. Your exes will simply be people you loved but have to accept that when you dated them, YOU WERE NOT GOOD ENOUGH. But that's alright, because there are new beginnings. Your job is to take responsibility for fixing your flaws. You have to be honest and take the pain of why those relationships went wrong so that you don't do it again. And start really digging deep. It's about time you saw yourself in the mirror and said I'm done living like this. Take control of your life. No excuses. Just start now and don't look back.
It's never too late. Better late than never.