"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hating AFCs

LandingWood

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Have any of you ever had to deal with AFCs hating because you're not a nice guy like they are?

I know a guy that apologizes for everything to everyone. He looks down on me because I do whatever I want whenever I want. How do you deal with it?

Often these dudes AFCness is deep rooted into their values.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Starfvcks 64

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Of course.
When it's happening it's obnoxious, specifically when a guy is white knighting and cokk blocking simultaneously.
Afterwards I laugh about it.

It is somehow very satisfying to hear a guy almost crying "how can she like him? he's such a damn *******! i just don't get it."
I want to tell him EXACTLY why she ended up hooking up with an ******* like me, but he'll never accept it.
So many guys talk sh1t about me, but we all know where hate comes from.

I hope someday more guys will see the light, but until then i'd rather be a lone wolf than a crab trying to get out of a bucket.

Really, I like living as an EXAMPLE to my peers.
 
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Actually I used to be on the opposite end of the spectrum. I disliked a guy's attitude in my high school because he got all the girls. Anytime I think back though, much of what I've learned reflects that my actions were AFC and his actions were alpha which was why he was always getting most of the girls and why I didn't like him. Just thought I'd give a different perspective.
 

Starfvcks 64

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DarkDetective50 said:
Actually I used to be on the opposite end of the spectrum.
Yep, that's why I say it's somehow very satisfying to hear someone else saying the stuff I used to say. It shows how much i've learned.
The thing is, I was NEVER an AFC. I just didn't understand girls. I had all these ideas in my mind, but I couldn't connect them. I read "Book of Pook" and that changed.
Had someone would've told me "look, young Starfvcks, it isn't that girls don't like nice guys, it's just that "nice guys" typically don't have much to offer. girls want what they can't have, and are more interested in a mans social status, etc..."
I would've listened.

That isn't the case for most guys. Most guys will deny, deny, deny.
The main reason is because most guys will ask GIRLS why girls don't like them.
 

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LandingWood said:
Have any of you ever had to deal with AFCs hating because you're not a nice guy like they are?

I know a guy that apologizes for everything to everyone. He looks down on me because I do whatever I want whenever I want. How do you deal with it?

Often these dudes AFCness is deep rooted into their values.
You bask in your greatness and pity the fool.

No but seriously.. most often AFCs tend to be very nice to DJs in public for social proof. They're fascinated and disgusted by us at the same time.

It's not until they escape to their other AFC friends/girl-friends that they start spewing sh!t about how rude and inconsiderate we are. Misery loves company.

Part of being a DJ is taking the high road in these matters, nodding your head, and moving on.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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