She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i dunno bout that cus if u do that they'll keep pushin it until u crack....u should just make up a joke that there kinda pathetic n full of insecurity N walk off dont worry bout it but if they keep pushin n dissin u then u should know when 2 stand up for urself without takin their bull****...besides it might acualy get u more points i mean look. chicks like 2 be round a guy that stands for what he belive in, what he stand for, a guy that dont take nobodys ****! so basicly standin up 2 tha haters will demonstrate that! but i recommend makin as much freinds as u can because most of the time if ur with them they will stand up for ya n even back u up in time of troubles!