Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Haters... I deal with em everyday.

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....and I'm tired of it.

Also, I asked this 19yr old woman who's been flirting with me for weeks now, texting at night while her husband is asleep, and whatnot... I asked her "what's up?" ...and she got cold feet on me. wtf?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Enough about the housewife. Tell us about the haters. I've never been hated. What's it like?
 

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being hated sucks. But at the same time at least for me it lets me know I am doing something right.

People don't hate something they are or have. Fat people don't hate people fatter than them. Ugly People don't hate people uglier than them. People dispise what they cannot enjoy.

It's better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.

It's alot more fun being hated because every woman at the table is eyeing you, than to be loved because everyone always invites you becuase they know you suck.
 

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backbreaker said:
being hated sucks. But at the same time at least for me it lets me know I am doing something right.

People don't hate something they are or have. Fat people don't hate people fatter than them. Ugly People don't hate people uglier than them. People dispise what they cannot enjoy.

It's better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.

It's alot more fun being hated because every woman at the table is eyeing you, than to be loved because everyone always invites you becuase they know you suck.
This kid is smart.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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backbreaker said:
People don't hate something they are or have. Fat people don't hate people fatter than them. Ugly People don't hate people uglier than them. People dispise what they cannot enjoy.

It's better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.

It's alot more fun being hated because every woman at the table is eyeing you, than to be loved because everyone always invites you becuase they know you suck.
Law 36: Disdain Things You Cannot Have: Ignoring Them is the Best Revenge
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.



jophil28 said:
This kid is smart.

I'm sorry, but wasn't that "fadish pulp" again,...?
 

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backbreaker said:
being hated sucks. But at the same time at least for me it lets me know I am doing something right.

People don't hate something they are or have. Fat people don't hate people fatter than them. Ugly People don't hate people uglier than them. People dispise what they cannot enjoy.

It's better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.

It's alot more fun being hated because every woman at the table is eyeing you, than to be loved because everyone always invites you becuase they know you suck.
whoa awesome! this is soo true on what goes behind peoples minds.

I always try to find a commonality of coolness and fun when I meet a girl, I wait for her to ask me my name.I danced with them got them all hyped up and other guys would come in to diss me cause "that guy is sooo ****ing fat and pathetic" and she would say hey why you say mean things like that " I would act unreactive and distracted to even notice and then use body language (give him my back) to cut him off whicle I was dancing with the chick.
He kept at it and I said "hey we are here for fun not to judge other people who want to have fun and enjoy themselves ".


that guy was a hater cause I could go up and dance with any girl and get compliance. He needed to hate cause he couldnt do anything else.
 

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also a little of law 2. friends will **** you over faster than your enimies will. they get envyious faster. when I started becoming successful with my old business, it was my friends, the ones I knew since I was in elementary school and thought of as brothers, that were talking **** about me behind my back, to my at the time GF and were ****blocking me all the time. the more I did for them the more envyious they got. I eventually had to move on but lesson learned.

People are going to hate you. the more **** you have going on, the more haters you will have. Get used to it buddy.
 

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The less you care about something especially if it's trivial and doesn't affect your current environment, the more power you have.
 

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Rollo Tomassi I'm sorry said:
My my, aren't we a tad sensitive lately .
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Glad I found this post, I find it very interesting.

As I quoted earlier, anything worthwhile doing (going after a cute girl, job promotion, money, good job) WILL always piss atleast one person off.

Haters are pathetic human beings with low self-esteem.

If you have a cute or hot girlfriend/wife etc, there will probably always be atleast one ugly guy or AFC who will hate you for it..no matter where you go.

Having a healthy self-esteem is all that matters. When you like yourself or feel good about yourself, you are less apt to care what others think of you.

When you have low-self esteem, you will look to others for validation of your self worth.

In short, don't be afraid to go after what you want in life or what you are capable of getting in life because it will piss somebody off. Don't worry if it will piss somebody off or not because it will.
 

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stuka1939 said:
As I quoted earlier, anything worthwhile doing (going after a cute girl, job promotion, money, good job) WILL always piss atleast one person off.
Unless it's popping your collar -- which WILL piss off everyone else in the room.
 

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backbreaker said:
also a little of law 2. friends will **** you over faster than your enimies will. they get envyious faster. when I started becoming successful with my old business, it was my friends, the ones I knew since I was in elementary school and thought of as brothers, that were talking **** about me behind my back, to my at the time GF and were ****blocking me all the time. the more I did for them the more envyious they got. I eventually had to move on but lesson learned.

People are going to hate you. the more **** you have going on, the more haters you will have. Get used to it buddy.
This is so very true. The biggest haters in life will be your lazy friends that don't have the balls to go out there and do it themselves. Its funny how critism comes from people who should be the last to criticize.

Its always the broke guy criticizing you on how to invest your money.
Its always the fat guy telling you that your workout routine is a waste of time.
Its always the AFC guy say that you're dealing with women complete wrong.

I agree. If you have haters, it proves you're doing something right. Reminds me of a good quote.

"If you don't have much going wrong in your life (ie haters), you don't have much going on with your life..."
 

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HPNOTIQ is back,...niiiice!
 

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Thanks for the welcome Rollo. I lurk on here every so often and keep up with the advice from the men on this forum. Its good to see familiar names like yourself and others dishing out the gospel..haha!

I got out of the loop giving advice...sometimes you learn more when ya sit back and listen. But then again, when you teach, you learn twice.

Digging the quote btw....The Matrix!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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