"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Drum&Bass

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I'm not as big as some of the larger guys at the gym but i put up the same if not more weight than they do (with better form).

I'm starting to notice alot of them try shouldering me, or bumping me or walking past me trying to be intimidating..this actually pisses me off and i stare em down ready to brawl..anyone else having similar trouble

I go to a college gym and I'm the only one that does squats and deads while everyone is getting their "bench" up.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Drum&Bass
I'm starting to notice alot of them try shouldering me, or bumping me or walking past me trying to be intimidating..
Haha, they're just intimidated, take that as a sign of success!

I can't wait till I get into a real gym where there's tonnes of mofo's who have no clue what they're doing. Keep it up, that's just them 'hazing' you, once they see you having heaps of success they'll start coming to you for advice n stuff.

Personally I haven't experienced that, but I've played in some pretty competitive sports where that is normal. The 'tough guys' or alpha's of the pack see someone who stands out--or does something unusual-- and tries to put you back into line. Then they'll start to respect you and give you some space. After that they start to look up to you and take advice from ya.

Rock on!:rockon:
 

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Add 50g protein per day to your diet and get yourself some giant quads and next time someone does that pick them up and put them on your back and squat them
 

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mrRuckus said:
Add 50g protein per day to your diet and get yourself some giant quads and next time someone does that pick them up and put them on your back and squat them
LOL
 

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Are you sure you did not piss them off in some way other than simply lifting more weight then them? I never heard of someone getting bullied at a gym.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Drum&Bass probably doesn't put the weights back in the proper place. Damn 45s sitting on the 5 bar of the tree.


Maybe he's the guy who comes in on Fridays between 12 and 3pm who in the squat rack does the following:

Puts 4 45s on the bar. Uses the clamps (?!). Puts the safety bars into the rack in the lowest possible position ABOVE the weights blocking all reasonable lifting. Leaves the weight there after working out. Never adds weight. I have no idea what exercise this person does because a row isn't possible and the safety bars are in the wrong place for a rack deadlift... and a regular deadlift is blocked too.
 

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mrRuckus said:
Add 50g protein per day to your diet and get yourself some giant quads and next time someone does that pick them up and put them on your back and squat them

:crackup: thats gold
 

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Maybe he's the guy who comes in on Fridays between 12 and 3pm who in the squat rack does the following:

Puts 4 45s on the bar. Uses the clamps (?!). Puts the safety bars into the rack in the lowest possible position ABOVE the weights blocking all reasonable lifting. Leaves the weight there after working out. Never adds weight. I have no idea what exercise this person does because a row isn't possible and the safety bars are in the wrong place for a rack deadlift... and a regular deadlift is blocked too.
actually i use eight 45's and I don't use safety bars. When i'm through i put them all back..Silently

Add 50g protein per day to your diet and get yourself some giant quads and next time someone does that pick them up and put them on your back and squat them
LOL classic

Are you sure you did not piss them off in some way other than simply lifting more weight then them? I never heard of someone getting bullied at a gym.
I'm one of the nicest guys around and I have flawless gym etiquette (spelling)..Plus I don't get bullied but I seem to draw a certain amount of negative attention from the other lifters.

Keep it up, that's just them 'hazing' you, once they see you having heaps of success they'll start coming to you for advice n stuff.
will do !
 

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if youre squatting 405 and not using safety bars, you're either lying or an idiot. or both
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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you're either lying or an idiot. or both
hey dipsh!t, when I use a power rack I don't use safety bars because I have a spotter. if your using safety bars you probably squat light weight on your own without any spotter.

Not Once has safety bars done anything for me. The only time I went down without control my spotter stepped in and brought me back up. It allowed me to keep going where I left off and push my limits.

p.s. and when i say i don't use safety bars I mean I set them lower than i squat allowing me to do full squats everytime. now if i pass out and fall flat then the safety bars will help me out but not if i get stuck doing reps.
 

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Lol this has happened to me a bit(I think). When I was a newbie I used to see this guy at my university gym who used to give me weird looks when he saw me deadlifting and squatting and rowing and all other big exercises (well so did others). By the end of the summer I was lat-pulldowning and stuff more than he did. It was like almost a lil rivalary between me and him. Then skool starts and guess whos my TA for one of the lab courses :D. In a lab consisting of 8 marks, I couldn't get the time to do the last part, I got 7/8 from this guy, but my friend who had the EXACT same part remaining got 6/8 from him. Guess its good to go the gym.
 

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Drum&Bass said:
hey dipsh!t, when I use a power rack I don't use safety bars because I have a spotter. if your using safety bars you probably squat light weight on your own without any spotter.

Not Once has safety bars done anything for me. The only time I went down without control my spotter stepped in and brought me back up. It allowed me to keep going where I left off and push my limits.

p.s. and when i say i don't use safety bars I mean I set them lower than i squat allowing me to do full squats everytime. now if i pass out and fall flat then the safety bars will help me out but not if i get stuck doing reps.
yeah, thats fine. gj
 

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finally eveything is cool with me and pretty much everyone at the gym we're all friends and things are great...but now, the new guys on roids' with their ego's are starting to create some friction, I even got into it with one of the kids who was cool 1 second then totally flipped the next..
 

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man im telling u the guys at my gym are dikheads they do a bunch of random shot that they berely even know how to do and pretty much all of tem dont do thier legs they are bulky men with skinny **** legs its so f...ing hilarious
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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@ Drum & Bass,

REMEMBER THERE ARE A**WHOLES IN THE GYM! Egos & blood are at boiling levels and the people who think they are the sh1t try to run it. I don't care who you are,how much you lift,your bodyfat or whatever, be curtious!
 

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sorry to barge in like this.. but what's a safety bar?
 

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Where can one buy the cage for this safety bar and does it have a bench function as well?

I love squats but at the moment I have to clean it from the floor.

I'm wanting to make my own gym in the garage but only want to use a portion of the garage for my workout gym.

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for example:

http://www.newyorkbarbells.com/im-0210.html

i've never understood the appeal (to me they've always just looked like extra padding) but this guy swears by 'em:

http://www.elitefts.com/documents/safety_squat_bar.htm
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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