Hate yourself ? Suck it up.

[SmooveMooves]

Hi, I'm Smoove

Trollers & Keyboard Warriors alike, breathe easy, relax, this is not an insensitive attack post as you so assumed, merely an offering of perspective and words of encouragement.

Society is fvcked up. What I believe to be the worst aspect of our fvcked up society is the media. The media is so powerful that it controls and influences the way people think. I haven't the slightest fvck to give for its affliction upon women, its the effect on men thats bothersome.

In the past men learned to be men, one of the first things a man was taught was to take responsibility. Not only for his actions, but for everything The structure of modern society has allowed this custom to be cast aside. We now live on the planet Blame in the 3B (blame) dimension.

Accountability has vanished and the government now protects its blitizens. (blaming + citizens)

If you are fat, it is not the fault of the fat one tis fault of commercials making food so good.
If you are poor, it is not because made bad decisions and lost your job tis because of a recession and current president (or country leader)
If everybody hates you it is not because you are a d1ckhead tis because a higher being placed a curse of hate upon you
If you smell putrid it is not because you use no soap tis because a magical being has not appeared yet and washed your ass.

You get my point. we all know the "fml Guy". The Guy who blames his failings upon the quality of the world, rather then the quality of himself. The Guy who gets pushed of his horse into a pit and just lies there. The Guy who takes a bullet to the leg and just waits there to bleed out.

Don't be that Guy. I agree, the world is indeed terrible, dark, evil, horrid, wretched, and unfair but you cannot change this.

What you can change however is, Your Life
Don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself
Waste time striving for greatness.

-Smoove

 

[CharlieCW]

Amen to all you said.

I'm hoping I'm not included in the Typo Warriors, in fact I complimented one of your tips and the one you put here: Change Your Life

I agree with you bro, the society is kinda messed up but blaming won't get you anywhere. You have the power to be anything you want, you just gotta start doing it, and as you said, stop feeling sorry for yourself.

It's like the old parable of the two farmers who asked God to bring rain upon their fields. Only one of them came out to prepare the earth and plant the seeds. The question now is, which one of these men are you?

 

[SmooveMooves]

Amen to all you said.

I'm hoping I'm not included in the Typo Warriors, in fact I complimented one of your tips and the one you put here: Change Your Life

I agree with you bro, the society is kinda messed up but blaming won't get you anywhere. You have the power to be anything you want, you just gotta start doing it, and as you said, stop feeling sorry for yourself.

It's like the old parable of the two farmers who asked God to bring rain upon their fields. Only one of them came out to prepare the earth and plant the seeds. The question now is, which one of these men are you?

No you were not included my friend, recently there has been a ton of feminazis lingering around SS, that was in regards to them. Hopefully I can get this message to the people who need it.

 

[FortunateSon]

I love myself.

If I had a vagina aswell as a penis, I'd smash myself into oblivion and then proceed to make a large mess on my stomach and bask in my excellence.

 

[skinnyguy]

Sure man. But it is more complicated than that. What do you say to a guy who makes good money, works out, goes out an still doesn't get dates? Yes changing your life can help but it doesn't guarantee anything. Meanwhile some tattooed unemployed guy is pounding 10 different chicks. You have to admit it is frustrating when you feel like you're doing the right things and not getting anywhere.

 

[collosuss]

Sure man. But it is more complicated than that. What do you say to a guy who makes good money, works out, goes out an still doesn't get dates? Yes changing your life can help but it doesn't guarantee anything. Meanwhile some tattooed unemployed guy is pounding 10 different chicks. You have to admit it is frustrating when you feel like you're doing the right things and not getting anywhere.

Don't even worry about that bruh, it just will give you a better success story to tell when you become a true Don Juan. You will get there just focus on improving yourself through hell and high water and success will be right after the storm, just hang in there...

 

[SmooveMooves]

Sure man. But it is more complicated than that. What do you say to a guy who makes good money, works out, goes out an still doesn't get dates? Yes changing your life can help but it doesn't guarantee anything. Meanwhile some tattooed unemployed guy is pounding 10 different chicks. You have to admit it is frustrating when you feel like you're doing the right things and not getting anywhere.

Frustrating? Yes. Does self pity and self loathe make it any less frustrating? No.

What I say to a person who makes good money, works out, goes out and still doesn't get dates?
Don't give up.

You already got the leg up on alot of guys now all you need now is the icing on the cake.

Compare yourself to the unemployed tattooed Guy, what is he doing to get dates that you aren't. I'll rule something out for you, its certainly NOT being tattoed & unemployed.
Step 1 : Find out what's tattoed Guy is doing and why he is successful and why you're not.
Step 2 : Work on eliminating qualities of yourself that prevent you from getting women
Step 3: Get Women
Step 4: Maintain the 3 steps
Step 5: Bathe in endless seas of watery Vagina

Progression is the best feeling in the world, don't stop until you are where you want to be, after you get where you want to be...

Keep Going.

 

[sambwoy]

Society is fvcked up. What I believe to be the worst aspect of our fvcked up society is the media. The media is so powerful that it controls and influences the way people think. I haven't the slightest fvck to give for its affliction upon women, its the effect on men thats bothersome

There is still much misogyny (at least in the media, but misogyny in a social context, to put it one way, might as well be illegal now) but misandry is much around too, and now with being allowed certain rights, it does not mean that **females** can turn it around and hate men. I can relate to this with regards to things like body image. If some woman is a 'frump' and some 'slug' of a boyfriend is mocking her and the story goes public (i.e. on a talk show) the 'spectators' at home will 'hate' him for it and 'hold out their hand' for the woman, yet a man in the woman's position has to go it alone, and perhaps get talked down to a lot by peers. I was in this position once and only had my psychiatrist to rely on. I guess in this regard it might be that guys are supposed to 'man up' or something.

 

[SmooveMooves]

There is still much misogyny (at least in the media, but misogyny in a social context, to put it one way, might as well be illegal now) but misandry is much around too, and now with being allowed certain rights, it does not mean that **females** can turn it around and hate men. I can relate to this with regards to things like body image. If some woman is a 'frump' and some 'slug' of a boyfriend is mocking her and the story goes public (i.e. on a talk show) the 'spectators' at home will 'hate' him for it and 'hold out their hand' for the woman, yet a man in the woman's position has to go it alone, and perhaps get talked down to a lot by peers. I was in this position once and only had my psychiatrist to rely on. I guess in this regard it might be that guys are supposed to 'man up' or something.

Hmm. I understand your view my friend and I also understand how tough it is going it alone. I have also been In such position and had nothing to rely on but my will power. I felt lost. But this reflects back upon post, As I stated, In the past Men were taught to deal with issues such as these, themselves, mainly because it was frowned upon to have a man, who would someday lead a family unit, rely on someone else.

No matter how much the media preaches it, men and women are NOT equal. This is a fact. So when the misandry happens and the man has to "go it alone" you are entirely correct when you say the man is supposed to "Man Up".

 

[thatfeel]

OP is overly simplistic. This is the same typical advice you give to clinically depressed people, e.g. "well get over it" "stop being depressed". It just doesn't work that way.

 

[SmooveMooves]

OP is overly simplistic. This is the same typical advice you give to clinically depressed people, e.g. "well get over it" "stop being depressed". It just doesn't work that way.

In my experience clinical depression is an illness and usually treated with meds, i don't believe people in the medical field are telling folks on the verge of suicide to "get over it", hopefully you wouldn't offer such advice either. You may call it simplistic but you actually prove my point. The main idea in my post is to take accountability, which society has stripped from modern man. Instead of hating yourself, work toward ways to stop the the self-loathe, Instead of complaining about your weight, work toward ways to get in shape, and etc. The absense of the accountability is evidenced by your statement. Is my post supposed to be a full-on guide on how to not hate yourself or words of encouragement from someone who was in a similar position.

The simple version of my post is to. "Be accountable and take control of your life".
If you dare say "its not that simple", or "It just doesn't work that way"...
Then I must ask,

How exactly does it work then?

 

[GADavid]

OP is overly simplistic. This is the same typical advice you give to clinically depressed people, e.g. "well get over it" "stop being depressed". It just doesn't work that way.

This is true. As someone who has had more than my fair share of problems and character flaws, I can say you do have to make the active, ONGOING, sometimes painful decision to take control. You have to reach a point of wanting change so badly you no longer have a choice.

 

[sambwoy]

This is the same typical advice you give to clinically depressed people, e.g. "well get over it" "stop being depressed".

I sense it has become fashionable to do that- having been around a few other forums myself and reading the posts of the one or two male posters who give you the 'tough love'. In practice, as the goal of this site is to get better with women, I sense many female posters wouldn't give you the same, unless they were well adjusted to society and are immune to its BS- all I got from them was condescending spiel which only played on whatever it was I was insecure about, thinking they have the moral high ground when it comes to things like looks/attraction, stereotyping people like the words from the script of a badly-written teen drama. The so-called 'hot chicks' will probably do this most. Oooh how they love looking down their noses at us 'lesser' folk!

 

[asa_don]

Sounds like this guy is trying to copy Pook with a more watered down message. next!

 

[Serenity]

I get it, but I wouldn't express it that way. The art of sucking it up comes from counterbalancing everything you belive or think you know. In some cases reaching a point where nothing matters and establish basic mechanisms for learning, then you learn how to learn. Then stripping your prior knowledge to the bare essentials and re-integrate them into your experience. To integrate you have to look for commonalities in the differences, try to find out how reality is put together using your senses. I could probably keep explaining this forever, because I can truly never be certain.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Sounds like this guy is trying to copy Pook with a more watered down message. next!

Brah, I know you guys here like idolize Pook and have posters of him on your walls and sh1t, but I haven't read a singleword of one of the mans posts.

I dont even really know who he is and why so many view him in high regards.
That's no disrespect to him, I'm simply stating my ignorance.

That being said, my "Pook" is a Guy named Shark from a website he owned called SolveMyGirlProblems which completely changed my life

So if anything i would like to believe my posts are reminiscent of his, but I defer.

Whether you believe the message is "watered down" or "oversimplistic", the simple fact is, the message is still there: Take Accountability

There may be people like me, who never read Pook and can make use of this info, so please, refrain from your attacks, I took that as disrespect.

I'm fine with constructive criticism, but that was simply not constructive, disrespectful and a waste of a post.

If i remind you of Pook, the solution is simple, don't read, but dont put "NEXT" on my sh1t.

Thankyou

 

[SmooveMooves]

I get it, but I wouldn't express it that way. The art of sucking it up comes from counterbalancing everything you belive or think you know. In some cases reaching a point where nothing matters and establish basic mechanisms for learning, then you learn how to learn. Then stripping your prior knowledge to the bare essentials and re-integrate them into your experience. To integrate you have to look for commonalities in the differences, try to find out how reality is put together using your senses. I could probably keep explaining this forever, because I can truly never be certain.

I believe the contrary, which is why i posted it. I think "sucking it up" comes first so THEN you can start balancing your life out.

However the difference is me is I Fully see where your coming from and respect your ideal entirely.

 

[asa_don]

That being said, my "Pook" is a Guy named Shark from a website he owned called SolveMyGirlProblems which completely changed my life

Interesting

Brah, I know you guys here like idolize Pook and have posters of him on your walls and sh1t, but I haven't read a singleword of one of the mans posts.

Me either. I just hear other people talk about him. You repeat what he says in a more watered down version. He is like a shrink trying to get you to feel better about yourself. That doesn't work for everybody brah.

I dont even really know who he is and why so many view him in high regards.
That's no disrespect to him, I'm simply stating my ignorance.

but I haven't read a singleword of one of the mans posts

That being said, my "Pook" is a Guy named Shark from a website he owned called SolveMyGirlProblems which completely changed my life

This right here says all i need to know. You say you never read any of his stuff, but the man changed your life? You are a clown. NEXT!

 

[SmooveMooves]

this right here says all i need to know. You say you never read any of his stuff, but the man changed your life? You are a clown. NEXT!

Someone needs to learn to read, I'll word it differently for you so you can understand.

I said... My version of Pook.....this means a different person.... Is Shark... whom posts I have read.....which have changed my life. Understand now?

Now again, refrain from the insults, I'm not here to bicker, that's reserved for the female posters.

Thanks in advance.

 

[VikingKing]

Sure man. But it is more complicated than that. What do you say to a guy who makes good money, works out, goes out an still doesn't get dates? Yes changing your life can help but it doesn't guarantee anything. Meanwhile some tattooed unemployed guy is pounding 10 different chicks. You have to admit it is frustrating when you feel like you're doing the right things and not getting anywhere.

Thats true. But the girls he is pounding are low quality