"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Has SoSuave actually helped anyone?

spax

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Besides the obvious stuff that people could have thought up themselves - look good, etc, has anyone ever actually felt what they have learned from SS has helped them pick up, get laid etc?

I haven't. The only thing that has helped me is the fear of going home like every other night dissapointed and thinking why i didnt do anything.

Balls is all you need, and silly little routines, tricks, "peacocking" items, wont help you at all. I feel that most people are here because theyre scared, as simple as that.

Nothing else can help them except experience and being motivated.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I was thinking something like this earlier. for other guys that is. I have actually gotten some useful incites from this site.
 
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You have no idea how big of a douche you sound like right now.

Its not an overnight thing man. You just got here this month; You barely have 40 posts! What the hell do you expect?

With things like this, you gotta realize: You only get back what you put into it. If you really want your life to change, you gotta work your ass off for it. Don't start making threads like this.
 

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This site has helped me alot. I actually found it in 2001... Ghosted on it for a few years then finally signed up when I met a HB9 AW.. she basically ate me for lunch.. so I decided to actually start following advice on here..

Its now a few years later and I can get girls.. not a master don juan or anything but I can at least get azz when I'm looking for it. It seems alot of people start by taking ALL 5 star advice from sosuave.. then slowly grow into their own style.

This site is golden.
 

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Ace of Flames said:
You have no idea how big of a douche you sound like right now.

Its not an overnight thing man. You just got here this month; You barely have 40 posts! What the hell do you expect?

With things like this, you gotta realize: You only get back what you put into it. If you really want your life to change, you gotta work your ass off for it. Don't start making threads like this.

Dude, I got 2 girls chasing me now - one is pretty much a "girlfriend".

How I got them wasn't due to SoSuave, it was just grabbing hold of my balls and saying to myself "enough is enough". I swallowed my fear and started talking. Simple as that.

Most people here want short cuts and tricks that they think will somehow get the girl for them and that they wont have to talk / be confident because theyre just pussies.

Its as simple as this: Look good, and be motivated.

It doesn't matter whether you go up and say 'Hi' or use some mystery opener crap, it's really not gonna make much of a difference.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Did this place bring me happiness ? No, and that was never the idea.
Did it save me a lot of unnecessary trouble and pointless questioning ? Hell yeah.
 

spax

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your a moron. if this site doesnt help you. get off. not everyone is born with natural pickup skills like your self.

although i do understand the basic gist of what your saying "you need to just do it" but then understand this. "a wise man will learn from others mistakes"
Just because this site hasn't helped me, doesn't mean I have to leave. And im saying I have a natural pick up ability, I don't at all, I've failed many times, but the only way to succeed, as you as is "you need to just do it" and just keep on trying. If everyone was learning from everyone elses mistakes, we wouldn't have members on the site like Luke Skywalker who have been her for years.

So please, stop memorizing gymicky lines, secret "methods", and over analysing simple situations.

Just think to yourself, "if I don't pick up this girl right now, I could be dead tommorow and never have been kissed / laid / whatever."

Why waste life?
 

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I'm sure if I went up to 10 hot girls in the street and said 'Hi' , I could prob start a convo with atleast 1. How long does that take? 30 mins? Instead of spending hours here writing lengthy schemes about how you're going to approach someone at some angel, wearing some 'peacock' hat, speaking in some special tone, using a special opener you spent hours memorizing, having it all planned all out only to fail.

Noob, you're just too much of a pvssy to do cold approaches that you think there is some kind of shortcut, well guess what buddy there aint. Saying 'Hi' to randoms and starting convos with randoms at places is just as effective as using stupid methods that you spent hundreds on.

So Noob, Im asking you to give it a try. Do 10 cold approaches in 1 day. What's stopping you? Fear?
 

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Go approach 10 girls with 'Hi'. Report back. If you haven't got the balls to do it, then you haven't got the balls to use all these "extensive methods".
 

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Well, I believe saying 'Hi' works, so if we go by the rule that you yourself learn from the mistakes and success from the members of the site, go with my advice that I have found successful and try it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Social Proof does work! I know! You don't need a site to teach you that! Its common sense!
 

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You don't have to have super powers to know that 'social proof' works. I think everyone realized that in kindergarten when the popular kids also became the cool kids.
 

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Yes it has helped.
 

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wtf? Stop analysing situations so much. Just go in for it.
 

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Dude, real men here have really helped out:
Specifically to me, this page has helped out with INFORMATION ONLY (obiusly) on:

- Inner game: I dont know if it has happened to you, but sometimes I read stuff and the next day I feel encouraged to do the tips guys mention here. My state of mind has changed way a lot in only 2 months. Reads here show tips to discover yourself. They pin out specific qualities that you can clasify in: "Im god at this", "this one needs improovement" and "I suck at this".

- Tips: I have seen a lot of tips here. I havent applyed em much.. haha sorry.. im way too creative for your tips.. I make em my own. =). No but really, there are some good ideas and tips on: kino, health and C&F. If they dont work, at least they inspire!

- My english: haha!! english is not my mother english. Writting here has helped me learn new words and also some slang !

I think key here like nearly everithing out there is: take what you think is usefull, and apply it !
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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This site typically helps the guys who want to be helped.
 

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Im not sure about what Franc meant but:

Im sure:
- Recognizing the need of help
- Asking for help
- Take and apply whats besto for one

Is something a real man would do !
 

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spax said:
Besides the obvious stuff that people could have thought up themselves - look good, etc, has anyone ever actually felt what they have learned from SS has helped them pick up, get laid etc?

I haven't. The only thing that has helped me is the fear of going home like every other night dissapointed and thinking why i didnt do anything.

Balls is all you need, and silly little routines, tricks, "peacocking" items, wont help you at all. I feel that most people are here because theyre scared, as simple as that.

Nothing else can help them except experience and being motivated.
Having balls is a good thing and a good way to get started, but you really need to read the DJ Bible, improve yourself, field test, and learn something before you start spewing "advice". You have a long ways to go, whether you realize it or not.
 

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I don't know if SoSuave has actually helped anyone but...
What I do know is that noone ever got a great body by just reading lots of books on fitness, visiting bb.com and reading the health and fitness section of SoSuave everyday. Obviously if you want to improve your body you have to exercise and have a better diet . But reading stuff about fitness no doubt helps people have a better idea of what they should be doing and maybe helps them realise what they are doing wrong, and so this does help people get the body they want
catch my drift
 

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spax said:
Nothing else can help them except experience and being motivated.


Daaaaaa...


This kind of question I would imagine being asked by someone who thinks reading a lot makes you better..


It's no secret that reading is only less than 1 percent of the knowledge. To learn how to study seduction go here: http://www.bristollair.com/basics/learning-seduction.html
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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